Trust Issues Options

[PinkBalloon]

I been having trust issue with my significant other for awhile now. Before we got together he had cheated on his previous 4 girlfriends, he said he never took those relationships seriosuly so I am unsure if he takes one we are in now seriously. I knew this before i got with him but did it anyway, should i trust him? I think he been sleeping around with other woman cause he comes home with clothes that he didnt leave in and dont even belong to him.

[Kfeng]

Just because a man is in a relationship with you does NOT mean he isn't still on the market, he window shops and talks/flirts with women on a daily basis.

Anyway, don't point the finger at him, I'm sure you do the same, you're constantly looking for "better options", it's only smart to do so. Preferences and needs are a constant changing thing and as a result, relationships that are long term are always under review.

Anyway, if you try to micromanage him, it will only backfire, I guarantee it. Back up and start looking for new guys, have an exit strategy available. Don't evaluate the situations with your emotions, evaluate it with your logic.

-Kevin

[HKobsessed]

it's so hard to be in a relationship if one person doesnt trust the other so you should sit down with him and ask what kind of relationship he is looking for with you.. whether it's going to be a serious one or one like the 4 in his past. Let him know that you will see him exclusively and you expect the same from him. hope everything works out for you :]

[Licialle]

You know before hand that he has cheated on his previous gfs before, yet you still went to him.
Doesnt that mean you have already decided that you want to trust him? To believe him? Stick with it then.

If you still dont trust him, say it to him, but also let him defend himself, if his answer isnt enough for you, then its time to quit.

BUT dont forget, because you already know that he has cheated before in his previous relationships, you are not the person who can forbid him to have any contact with females. Thats why trust is really important in a relationship.

Hope you can trust him, or choose your own happiness without him

[fookhwa]

You should not have started knowing he cheated in the past. Although I believe in giving people second chances, but as a chinese proverb says the landscape/kingdom can be changed easily, but the character of man can hardly be moved. If you want him, you will have to endure his cheating. My advice would be to drop him and find someone who really loves you back.

[jootyhuynh15]

Honestly, if a guy has done it before, what makes you think you are any different? Time, and maturity CAN change a guy, but it's a hard habit to get rid of. I think if you have suspicion, and reasoning, you basically already know the answer in your heart. I think you are just in denial at the moment.

Let him go, it's not worth being insecure, it's not worth the wondering, nor is it worth wasting your time on someone who doesn't cherish you. Find someone who makes you secure, and know how much you mean to him. It's the greatest and most refreshing feeling ever.

I know from experience

[amehhh loves dan...]

I can see where you're coming from. It is difficult to change someone from what they are.. I would straight up just ask him in a good tone, don't point fingers just yet because I do that alot and that don't solve anything. It's hard to keep a relationship alive if there isn't trust, i would give him a chance and trust him and if you find out anything wrong about him like with evidence then i would just break up

[maxxy]

well u won't know if u don't try, but yet remember to protect yrself ya

[behappyman]

From a man's perspective, the evidence you found, of the change of clothes is strong enough, like damn! That's the evidence right there!

But with a history of cheating on 4 previous girlfriends, I think it would take a miracle to change this guy to someone who would suddenly just 'straighten up'. I don't think he is going to change his habit for you (nothing personal) or anyone.

I think it's natural in this case that you're having trust issues, but if I were you, I'd just dump him, because in this case there's nothing to suggest that he's NOT cheating.

[unbleached]

if you knew all that about him before u got together, i don't know how you could possibly be attracted to someone like that...

[Oriental_Azn_Gal]

for me: once a cheater, always a cheater... and i think your bf kinda proved that... cheating on 4 girls is a bad as it gets

[Anime_UK]

Have you ever heard of the program called Cheaters? Where people who think their partner is cheating on them and then they investigate for them. Well if you want to find out the truth then why not give Cheaters a call! Thats providing you don't mind making it all public.

But if he's taking precautions and steps to hide evidence then obviously he is porbably cheating on you because is it the actions of an innocent man?

[crannie]

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