Do guys like shy girls or not?, guys and girls opinions Options

[Latania2007]

I'm very shy, I rarely speak to guys, I have never dated or had guys as a friend. I have talked to some guys but you can count them with one hand
So I have wondered this quite a while that do guys like shy girls or do they find them hard to approach, or do guys like the more talkative and louder girls?
I'm shy and reserved with people that I don't know very well but if I know the person better I'm more talkative and braver, if you get what I mean. I'm already 17, so I would like to get a bf, but I'm not in hurry, I just wanna know what kind of girls do guys like.

[weellium]

I find shy girls more approachable, maybe because I'm also kinda shy too. Girls that are "loud and talkative" kinda scare me.

[Chatterer]

Personally, yes, I do sorta like girls who are shy at first. At FIRST. Just as long as they relax and open up later on. Obviously it'd be really awkward to have one-sided conversations with a girl who is like, too petrified to talk.

Loud girls are fun, but they quickly get annoying.

[e_1122]

too loud is no no...but then it must be hard to get a realli shy girl talkin too...but generalli i wud say shy more than talkative

[sunsfan12]

i'm not a fan of shy girls personally. my motto has always been, a girl has to be able to enjoy talking more than i do. if i have to exert the energy to think up conversation topics for us, then dat's a severe turnoff.

[VainFella]

Well I think at your stage, you should worry less about getting a bf, but to go talk to guys more. You can have guy friends, don't just approach the ones you want to go out with. Just talk to your classmates or hook up with some friends who know some boys. Talk to them like you would talk to your close friends.

But yeah, theres reason to be shy. What is your reason?

[icy9978]

I think it depends on the guy. I like a girl that is more assertive and outspoken.
Also, being too shy isn't good either. As long as you are talkative when you get to know the person

[woaiarron]

i wonder the same too!
i'm pretty shy and quiet myself, but when i get to know a person, i talk to them comfortablly...
but if i talk to a person, i talk to one who talks more than me because i have a slow mind
after all... and hopefully they'll have something new to talk about before it gets awkward...

[hoinam]

I also perfer a shy girl but she needs to be able to pen up when were dating.But i agree, loud girls at first approach do scare me.

[Latania2007]

Well I think at your stage, you should worry less about getting a bf, but to go talk to guys more. You can have guy friends, don't just approach the ones you want to go out with. Just talk to your classmates or hook up with some friends who know some boys. Talk to them like you would talk to your close friends.

But yeah, theres reason to be shy. What is your reason?

I don't really know why I''m shy, it's just that I have always been. Even when I was little I didn't like to be with people I don't know and I'm really bad at making new friends (I have only few friends). I just freeze, when talking to person I don't know. But, yeah, maybe I should make guy friends first. Thanks

[Kfeng]

I personally DO NOT like shy girls, now, I'm not generalizing this to all asian girls, but most asian girls are pretty damn shy and as a result they just really bore me. I seriously might as well be talking to a water bottle. Nobody likes a one sided conversation. So learn to break out of your comfort zones, be more talkative, participate more. Talking is fun, don't let your ego get in the way.

[Teddiursa]

if you're thinking if you should change into a loud and talkative girl, don't.

stay who you are, atleast rather let them hate you for who you are than to love you for who you are not. :3

I like shy girls. xD

[Latania2007]

I personally DO NOT like shy girls, now, I'm not generalizing this to all asian girls, but most asian girls are pretty damn shy and as a result they just really bore me. I seriously might as well be talking to a water bottle. Nobody likes a one sided conversation. So learn to break out of your comfort zones, be more talkative, participate more. Talking is fun, don't let your ego get in the way.

Well I'm from Finland and generally finnish people aren't really talkative. It's not like I don't like talking, if I know the person I can talk pretty much non stop, but most of it isn't making any point, but anyhow it's just really hard to me to start a conversation with person I don't know.

if you're thinking if you should change into a loud and talkative girl, don't.

stay who you are, atleast rather let them hate you for who you are than to love you for who you are not. :3

I like shy girls. xD

Luckily I'm not thinking of changing myself, it would be too hard. Yeah I will stay as who I'm. Thanks

[shh_love]

i can talk to guys well on msn and well basically everything apart from face to face. i get shy but if they make the effort to then i just talk to them normally and have a laugh. so if a guy talks to you just think you have nothing to lose and go for it, i know its hard but i got through it

[Sunshine_SekSek]

sweetie you havent even had guys as friends? theres shy, and then there is like, recluse. i dont mean that in a horrible way, i used to be the same.. going from not talking to guys at all to boyfriend is probably a big step.
there are some guys who like shy girls because theyre less intimidating, more approachable. but theres a borderline bewteen ahy and too shy. if you cant talk to people you dont know, people assume that you dont want to talk to them and they wont make the effort. it isnt about changing your personality, because im sure a lot of people have the same problem as you and you are nice. but maybe the way you portray yourself.. do you sit with your shoulders hunched.. afraid of attracting attention? dont contribute to group conversations? dont smile? make a few small changes perhaps to show that although you are shy, you are still approachable... again.. you could ask the guys above. shy is cute, but there is a line between shy and then just, too shy ...

[-SouP-]

Yes. Do not change who you are. In anything you do, just be yourself.

As for what guys look for in a girl, it's always a personal preference. Sometimes, outgoing guys go with outgoing girls or shy girls go with shy guys. (But sometimes shy and shy don't work out too too well - it can get awkward at times.) But yeah, personally i'd prefer the shy types. To me, they're easier to approach. Plus, usually they're the cute, and friendly type. Now that's the kind of girl I'd go for. They're only shy around people they don't know closely. Once people are close, that's when they start to really open themselves up and you can see who they really are.

[x12s0o]

well said Soup. I prefer shy girls too. Just cant be too shy because guys wont know if you like them. We are not mind readers

[AsianShadow]

I wouldn't worry too much, a lot of guys like shy women. They're easier to approach and it makes the guy feel more powerful when he's around them. Loud, talkative girls are good because at least you know what they're thinking all the time, but it can be annoying if you're the sort of person that likes quiet. Shy girls can be annoying to some guys because having a lack of things to say might look like you're just not interested in the conversation, but on the other hand shy girls can be good listeners because they're not talking the whole time.

A lot of people are shy, no one can really fault you for that and there's nothing wrong with it. Most guys do like confident women though. If you're shy because you're just quiet, that's one thing, but if you're shy because you're scared and selfish conscious, then that's something you should really work on for your sake. A little self confidence can really help you in life. The important thing to remember is just not to be afraid to be yourself. You're special just the way you are, it's not anything to be ashamed of. As long as you stay true to yourself, you'd be surprised how attractive that can be.

This post has been edited by AsianShadow: Oct 6 2009 6 14 AM

[Majestic]

I'm very shy, I rarely speak to guys, I have never dated or had guys as a friend. I have talked to some guys but you can count them with one hand
So I have wondered this quite a while that do guys like shy girls or do they find them hard to approach, or do guys like the more talkative and louder girls?
I'm shy and reserved with people that I don't know very well but if I know the person better I'm more talkative and braver, if you get what I mean. I'm already 17, so I would like to get a bf, but I'm not in hurry, I just wanna know what kind of girls do guys like.

Hey. This is my honest opinion ok.

I don't think shyness plays a factor in approachability. I think its all about opportunity and courage (the risk you are willing to take to talk to someone). If a shy girl hides herself and a guy has to go extreme lengths to talk to her, then its very hard for the guy to reach her. Let me give you an example, if a guy always looks at something (a book - anything) and a girl finds him really attractive, unless the girl is willing/has the courage to talk to him then the guy is really unapproachable. If the girl is shy she may rely on the guy to initiate contact, if she is more outgoing she may start a conversation or something. So from this point, it'll be really hard for a shy girl to be able to approach a shy guy, so someone has to be able to start something.

Now I think initial shyness is different to once contact has been established. After a person knows another, if one of them is shy - the other will interpret it as disinterest and that sorta screws the relationship at that point.

In like-ability, about do "boys like shy girls" I think unless they have a fetish for shy girls, it doesn't really matter. It depends more on attractiveness and opportunity. If the boy can establish some form of opportunity to talk/get contact to/with the girl...

I hope you understand what I mean.

[Topnotch(LAUJ)]

Do guys like shy girl..in a way but striking a conversation with them could be hard, and hey try going on dates and try to be little open, 17 is still young you have a long way to go...

[UKnowILoveYou]

okay I'll be honest...I'm pretty darn loud.

i am attracted to guys that appear to be shy. It's because i think when they open up it's really cute and i find it such a turn on!

My boyfriend said you're on the verge of being unattractive from his opinion, because you don't speak up and don't address your ideas...therefore you will end up with awkward silence. If you want to say something...you should. If you don't do anything or say anything, then nothing will happen. You don't have to be serious, start out small...nothing major HAS to be done.

Good Luck (:

[JSBach]

Most Asian guys claim to prefer "shy" girls. But clearly, they gravitate towards the more outgoing ones. It's like girls who say they want shy guys, but gravitate towards playerish guys.

Go to a party. Take two girls, both similar in appearance and dress. CLEARLY, the outgoing one in the center of the party (flirting and being playful with guys) will get hit on wayyyy more than the shy one in the corner. It's not even questionable. Everybody has only a certain level of tolerance for others. If a guy tries to be nice to a girl and her shyness is a hinderance, there is a point when he goes "f-ck it", just move on.

Shy people are often perceived as being stuck-up and antisocial. Cool people are often perceived as being outgoing and takes initiative. There's a reason for that.

[J-Dragon]

Being shy is no big deal. Initially, it is pretty difficult to converse with a shy girl but I don't think many guys mind it. I think it's cute sometimes haha.

It's when you're to shy to a point where you are anti-social that it becomes a problem. I'm talking about the emotionless and pessimistic type of people that have no friends.

[Latania2007]

sweetie you havent even had guys as friends? theres shy, and then there is like, recluse. i dont mean that in a horrible way, i used to be the same.. going from not talking to guys at all to boyfriend is probably a big step.
there are some guys who like shy girls because theyre less intimidating, more approachable. but theres a borderline bewteen ahy and too shy. if you cant talk to people you dont know, people assume that you dont want to talk to them and they wont make the effort. it isnt about changing your personality, because im sure a lot of people have the same problem as you and you are nice. but maybe the way you portray yourself.. do you sit with your shoulders hunched.. afraid of attracting attention? dont contribute to group conversations? dont smile? make a few small changes perhaps to show that although you are shy, you are still approachable... again.. you could ask the guys above. shy is cute, but there is a line between shy and then just, too shy ...

Well I have kinda had a boy as a friend, me and my two friends spent time in the school with him (now we go to different schools) and sometimes when I see him in bus I go and talk with him about school and such.
I can talk to people I don't know if they start the conversation. Well I smile, laugh and talk sometimes guite loudly with my friend in school. But I don't really like attracting attention to myself.

I wouldn't worry too much, a lot of guys like shy women. They're easier to approach and it makes the guy feel more powerful when he's around them. Loud, talkative girls are good because at least you know what they're thinking all the time, but it can be annoying if you're the sort of person that likes quiet. Shy girls can be annoying to some guys because having a lack of things to say might look like you're just not interested in the conversation, but on the other hand shy girls can be good listeners because they're not talking the whole time.

A lot of people are shy, no one can really fault you for that and there's nothing wrong with it. Most guys do like confident women though. If you're shy because you're just quiet, that's one thing, but if you're shy because you're scared and selfish conscious, then that's something you should really work on for your sake. A little self confidence can really help you in life. The important thing to remember is just not to be afraid to be yourself. You're special just the way you are, it's not anything to be ashamed of. As long as you stay true to yourself, you'd be surprised how attractive that can be.

When I talk with somebody, for e.g. my friend I listen and show that I'm interested. And when somebody starts a conversation with me I try to answer and I usually have things to say. I'm quiet usually, but when I'm with my friends or at home I can be very loud.

Hey. This is my honest opinion ok.

I don't think shyness plays a factor in approachability. I think its all about opportunity and courage (the risk you are willing to take to talk to someone). If a shy girl hides herself and a guy has to go extreme lengths to talk to her, then its very hard for the guy to reach her. Let me give you an example, if a guy always looks at something (a book - anything) and a girl finds him really attractive, unless the girl is willing/has the courage to talk to him then the guy is really unapproachable. If the girl is shy she may rely on the guy to initiate contact, if she is more outgoing she may start a conversation or something. So from this point, it'll be really hard for a shy girl to be able to approach a shy guy, so someone has to be able to start something.

Now I think initial shyness is different to once contact has been established. After a person knows another, if one of them is shy - the other will interpret it as disinterest and that sorta screws the relationship at that point.

In like-ability, about do "boys like shy girls" I think unless they have a fetish for shy girls, it doesn't really matter. It depends more on attractiveness and opportunity. If the boy can establish some form of opportunity to talk/get contact to/with the girl...

I hope you understand what I mean.

Yeah I understand what you are saying, thanks.

[k.e.y]

hahaha! me too. i am quiet n shy if i do not know tt person.
i dont think u shuld change ur personality.
just be urself. from wad i tink, boys and girls who are friendly and loud, tend to be fwens wif each other.but the boys whom i know prefer the quiet ones if it comes to dating. i gues they find them fun n mysterious.

[Cullinan Lover]

I don't like shy girls. I'm virtually only attracted to OUTGOING GIRLS.

[leek99]

i think i would be attracted to a shy girl as i'm quite a shy guy myself. I would not go for someone who was overbearing and told you what to do all the time like being henpecked

[crazy4aaronyan]

omg omg!! same here im like rlly shy around guys too n i uhhh dnt hav any guy friends at all n is rlly shy to talk to a guy cuz im always shy n when i look shy, i look kinda serious i dnt wanna be this way cuz i want a lot of friends. guy friends are wat i want. but dunno how to make any n all the guys today are sooo annoying i want some guy who is kinda like u noe outgoing kinda shy too but yah i noe

[edwun]

i like shy girls but i think their boring. they always agree with me. i dont know. . .afraid to speak up their minds?

honest enough. theres a lot of silent moments. i feel im always starting the topics. and almost all the time. they seem so naive and innocent.

theyre easy targets. usually alone. but dont expect to go far.
if they remain shy. i dont feel emotional attachments. . .they dont take initiatives. so i dont know where im going with her.

[Katieluvsu]

I'm a shy girl too. Well I had a bf but it doesn't truly count because we only lasted 2 till 4 days because I was the rebound again. That was last year and I was 17 too but now I'm 18. Relationships are hard to find even for both genders. I would love to get a bf but I do love being single. Some boys to like shy girls but not all. When the right time come that boy will find you. I don't know how to make guy friends but if they come and talk to me ..I will talk back and if they get to know me longer ...I do go up and talk to them. I guess their are different levels of being shy.

[y0ki]

i guess guys like girls who r shy, but also able to social at the rite time.... can't b shy all the time, that can b boring. guys might lose interest. but i think some guys like shy girls cuz they think they'r Q....

[acura45]

I'm actually not a fan of shy people in general, it gives the impression that you are a snub and don't want to talk. Try to talk more, and that way people will know more about you. Remember, even at work, uni whatever, shy may not get you very far.

[seeker123]

Well first of all, ALL of us were afraid to talk to the other sex at some point. We also freeze and get really awkward. You don't have to feel that you are just born to be really really shy and you don't know why. The more you say that to yourself, the more you will be like that.

I'm not telling you to change yourself, but people do need to grow and change at some stage. You are 17, so don't worry if you haven't had a BF yet, just focus on having male friends at this stage. Trust me, guys are not afraid of shy girls. Guys are so insecure, a shy girl gives them a sense of security, so don't be afraid you are hard to approach, you are actually very easy to approach. Just don't scare them away because you're too afraid of awkwardness and freeze. Other people are doing the same, but they just don't show it. After a while, you get used to it and realize some dead air and awkwardness is part of life, and you don't feel to embarrassed or scared after a while. That's what I mean by change.

So I wish you all the best in finding more friends, guys and gals, and hope you now realize many people are in your boat at first, and you will definately be less and less shy as time goes by.

[Latania2007]

Well first of all, ALL of us were afraid to talk to the other sex at some point. We also freeze and get really awkward. You don't have to feel that you are just born to be really really shy and you don't know why. The more you say that to yourself, the more you will be like that.

I'm not telling you to change yourself, but people do need to grow and change at some stage. You are 17, so don't worry if you haven't had a BF yet, just focus on having male friends at this stage. Trust me, guys are not afraid of shy girls. Guys are so insecure, a shy girl gives them a sense of security, so don't be afraid you are hard to approach, you are actually very easy to approach. Just don't scare them away because you're too afraid of awkwardness and freeze. Other people are doing the same, but they just don't show it. After a while, you get used to it and realize some dead air and awkwardness is part of life, and you don't feel to embarrassed or scared after a while. That's what I mean by change.

So I wish you all the best in finding more friends, guys and gals, and hope you now realize many people are in your boat at first, and you will definately be less and less shy as time goes by.

Thanks, your tip is wonderful. I'll remember this one

[jun takashi]

not to the extent of one word one answer. i mean you try to talk and have a good conversation and the person you talk to is saying , yeah, yes, no, ok. good, idk, maybe.

how will you get to know each other that way, seems not friendly or try to be.

[kathyxP]

Oh man, I am so shy. Seriously. People by looking at me think I'm some loud girl. When they try to start a conversation with me, I'm just like "Uhhh okay" or some weird answer like that. I make things very awkward to people, then they never talk to me again. I even find myself boring.

[IshBoo]

all girls are different..guys as well..but im usually the shy one in front girls..but their ish always that saying..you dont know him..he doesnt kno you..you have nothing to lose..

[Mangopies]

I'm very shy, I rarely speak to guys, I have never dated or had guys as a friend. I have talked to some guys but you can count them with one hand
So I have wondered this quite a while that do guys like shy girls or do they find them hard to approach, or do guys like the more talkative and louder girls?
I'm shy and reserved with people that I don't know very well but if I know the person better I'm more talkative and braver, if you get what I mean. I'm already 17, so I would like to get a bf, but I'm not in hurry, I just wanna know what kind of girls do guys like.

Lol nothing to be ashame of really as I also find shy girls attractive and I do like shy girls as I am a very shy lad lol.

[GoAPES]

I find shy girls cute, in a way. I know they have reasons to be quiet, same as i do. I feel silence is important, unless when spoken to. When words came out of your mouth, it may be dangerous to others, and i have learned my lesson.

[Shinzo]

Yeah, at age 17 you really don't have much to worry about. You are still young but do try to gain some experience in opening up to people. Just a little. But back to your question, I like shy girls but the better open up a bit. Because from my experience it is hard to start up conversation if you date some who wont really start.
It is very tiring to constantly start something. Your relationship wont last long if it seems one-sided.