always feel left out Options

[~*Jessica*~]

well i used to have a bf, and when we are not together i feel left out. even now i feel left out when he said he is doing something, like watching movies with friends, or just doing something. i just want to be there and enjoy it with him.

i feel left out and upset when he said he is doing something with his roomate and his roomates gf.

i dont know why i feel this way eventho we broke up.

can anyone tell me why please, do you have the same problem as me too?

[Anime_UK]

If you 2 have broke up already then you need to get over him and move on. Best to avoid him for a while because then you won't feel jealous when he is doing things with other people.

[icy9978]

Yea. I recommend contacting your other friends and try to find things to do with them

[~*Jessica*~]

If you 2 have broke up already then you need to get over him and move on. Best to avoid him for a while because then you won't feel jealous when he is doing things with other people.

well kinda hard because we work together and we still HAVE to talk.

we both have feeling for eachother still, just there are things we don't want it to happen again, so we haven't go back out yet. i still hope that it would work out and no more problems like this would happen again.

[seeker123]

Of course many other people have the same problem as you. Jealousy, feeling left out everyone feels that. Even guys.

But just because it's common, doesn't make it healthy. You must decide now whether you want to try and get the relationship going again, or break off completely. Being stuck in limbo and just being jealous all day is the worst option.

[Pinkuu]

You know, sometimes i feel that way too. And let's face it, we're too reliant on the other person which therefore creates jealous and insecurity.
He has his friends that he hangs around with and maybe you can suggest that you would like to join them or even arrange to hang out all together.
Otherwise you just have to occupy yourself. You said that you've broken up with him and i know it's hard to get over the barrier at 1st but you have to do it sooner or later.

[KungFuPanda]

maybe it was the way your relationship ended. Talk to him about it, let him know that you feel uncomfortable and you want to resolve it together.

[~*Jessica*~]

maybe it was the way your relationship ended. Talk to him about it, let him know that you feel uncomfortable and you want to resolve it together.

we did talked about this, and he said not to worry, there isnt much i would miss out. since i might not enjoy what they are talking about or doing. but it just worries me and make me feel so left out

[pk1984]

well i used to have a bf, and when we are not together i feel left out. even now i feel left out when he said he is doing something, like watching movies with friends, or just doing something. i just want to be there and enjoy it with him.

i feel left out and upset when he said he is doing something with his roomate and his roomates gf.

i dont know why i feel this way eventho we broke up.

can anyone tell me why please, do you have the same problem as me too?

he haven't spent anytime with you, so you have to let him be, maybe try it for a few days, and see if he will see how you feel. if he don't then ignore him and try to find someone else that will treat you better

[Shinzo]

Ah yes, I always have saying that "you should never date your coworker" and this is the reason why. You seem them everyday if your relationship goes sour. I don't know about you but it always makes me feel better when I see my ex in trouble. (Not life threatening) but simple thinks like getting stuck with to much work and she is in torment.

[SpoiledSkies]

Jessica, you lived your whole life without this guy. Did you feel left out then? Don't let one guy ruin your life. You're just not over him yet. Or perhaps, you are, but you were adjusted to the feeling of having him around. It's possible that you're just lonely. Get better.

[sk47z]

girl from the way u are describing i tink u're to relying on ya bf.
u jus wanna be with him all the time no matter wat he do rite? u jus wanna join wat ever he's doing or going anywhr with his frens o wat.
but u have to give him some room for individuals activities. since u say you bf mention tat even though u not joining them u wouldn't miss anythign much cos u might not be interested in wat they're toking or doing, is tat the case? if u're interested in wat they're tokign n doing then u might wan to let him know. the reason y he din ask u along is he thought tat u're not interested n might be bored.
somehow i tink u need to have your own life too rather than jus sticking ard him. look for your own frens. do your own stuff n look for your own entertainment. in this way u wont be feelign left out. btw i dun really understand wat r u worry abt? relationship build up on trust, if u trust him there's nth u should worry abt. let him go out once in a while with his fren without u is ok. anyway all the best to u

[~*Jessica*~]

Jessica, you lived your whole life without this guy. Did you feel left out then? Don't let one guy ruin your life. You're just not over him yet. Or perhaps, you are, but you were adjusted to the feeling of having him around. It's possible that you're just lonely. Get better.

ur right, i haven't date anyone until im 20, and now iam 2*, so he does mean a lot to me, since it's my first boyfriend, and i know by heart i do love the guy. but just hate it when something about us relates with other girls, that i think he would like or that the girl likes him.

i dont feel safe i guess?

girl from the way u are describing i tink u're to relying on ya bf.
u jus wanna be with him all the time no matter wat he do rite? u jus wanna join wat ever he's doing or going anywhr with his frens o wat.
but u have to give him some room for individuals activities. since u say you bf mention tat even though u not joining them u wouldn't miss anythign much cos u might not be interested in wat they're toking or doing, is tat the case? if u're interested in wat they're tokign n doing then u might wan to let him know. the reason y he din ask u along is he thought tat u're not interested n might be bored.
somehow i tink u need to have your own life too rather than jus sticking ard him. look for your own frens. do your own stuff n look for your own entertainment. in this way u wont be feelign left out. btw i dun really understand wat r u worry abt? relationship build up on trust, if u trust him there's nth u should worry abt. let him go out once in a while with his fren without u is ok. anyway all the best to u

wrong, they are things he likes, that i think it's boring so why would i want to do those when i can do what i like. we need space too to do our own things.

i do go out with friends and all.

what iam talking about is that, we dont have enough time together. and the biggest problem to me is that, he hasnt said he loves me, so that scares me.

i want him to show that he loves me and care for me. it's funny how he cares for me when it's only US, but when there are ppl, he doesnt seems to care. i dont get it. and i just feel piss off when it happens.

i sometimes have the feel that he does love me, but then i dont because im afraid that i think that way because i want that way.

[Oriental_Azn_Gal]

I've been in a realtionship with my bf for 2+ yrs and I haven't really felt left out when he was hanging with his friends... apart from a few times when he went to watch a specific movie with his friend that I wanted to watch with him.

I guess, the way to concquer this is by maintaining good close relations with your other friends- make it so that he's not the centre of your social world and vice versa.

[Love. Music.]

why are u so attached to him?
its like if u dont know what he is doing at that exact moment ur head would blow up or something.
i suggest u backing off because u two bot have seperate lives right now outside of work and talking to each other
he doenst need to report to u everything
u have to understand that he has his friends and u have urs they do not mix as of this point

[Carminochan]

This happens when you are too emotionally attached to some one.

It is important for each of you to have your own personal space. Try not to be too clingy.

[andrewjho]

The best thing for you to do now is to start hanging out with your old group of friends, or find a new group who will be able to cheer you up. But bring too much emotions into your topics when talking to your friends, just have a good time and you'll eventually forget about the pain.