Too Young for Him? Options

[teaxpot]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. He's 25 and I'm 20. I'm still in school and he just graduated and is now a working man. Most days I feel lucky to have him because he's more mature than guys my age and he's serious when he has to be. But other times, I feel like I'm too young for him. When he tells me about his day at work, sometimes I don't comprehend the pressure he feels because I guess I've never had a real job with the 401Ks and retirement plans and what not. Then there are other times he tells me I need to stop whining and I should grow up. And that I need to set a good example for those younger than me so I can't be doing the same things I did freshman year. (Freshman year my friends and I joked around a lot and pranked each other for fun.) But that's really who I am. I like to joke around, I can't be serious all the time. I feel like he's asking to grow up fast, for him. But there's still a lot that I need to learn on my own and I still want to enjoy being a college student.

If I feel this way, does it mean I'm too young for him?

[r0b]

Relax. You're young and he should know that. I am four years older than my girlfriend and when she was off at school, I let her do whatever she wanted. (Usually going out to the bar/clubs with her girlfriends). I had no issue with it because I knew she was young and she deserves to have fun as I did when I was her age. Your boyfriend needs to understand that part.

After my girlfriend graduated from school and landed her job, she became a responsible adult and doesn't go out as often.

Everyone is different in their own way and I'm sure your boyfriend was only saying those things from the pressures of his job. Just have a talk with him and mention that you're still young and would like to enjoy it before you finish school and go out into the real world.

[sky-23]

your not too young your just being you
u know the age difference thing is what you both made a choice for.
furthermore he should understand that your still in school anyways.
it has to do with understanding eachother and eachothers situation.
just listening and being there for him should be enough.

bottom line is line is for you guys do you like each other enough?
if so then the age difference should not matter and you should accept each other as they are now.

[Elephant]

Nope! You're not too young, but just immature. What you need now is more maturity. The age at 20 is old enough for you to have much more serious thoughts and make many more important decisions for your life in the future. Or you have to suffer any regret later.

[Pinkuu]

You've just said it for yourself.
You're young, you're still at school and im sure when he was at school, he joked and had a bit of fun.
You are both still young individuals and i feel that he should relax and just enjoy life. Be serious when you need to but you're only having a little bit of harmless fun.

[INSTIGATOR]

The age is a NUMBER. Look beyond that number. My ex and i were 8 yrs apart and that didnt bother us.

The main focus is where both your lives are at.

HIM = graduated and now working
YOU = College student who has not yet experienced the work life yet

Although he may be "maturing" like you say, he still needs to be considerate of how YOUR life is. He can not just think that because "he's moving on up" that you should too. No thats not how it works. He was ONCE in your shoes as well and he didnt have a job before. So you need to confront him and have him be more considerate of where you are in life and ensure he understands your role and HIS role in the relationship. you CAN still joke around with your friends cuz im sure he does too - He just might not tell you or do it in front of you.

Honestly, hes not that mature from what youre telling me. Hes more of a jerk for not considering your feelings and WHO you truly are. You have been YOU.

But i need to warn you. I was in his shoes before and I felt that my ex (a different ex) and I were in two different worlds (I was in college and she was a senior in high school). The different worlds and perspectives of our own lives differed in dreams, goals, and aspirations. So we had to separate.

To prevent that from happening, you need to communicate with him and have him think about your guy's lives as a WHOLE aaaaaaaaand individually. Boyfriends and Girlfriends need to be considerate of one another regardless - no excuse for hatin' on each other just because the other is having more fun

[dragon51013]

age is just a number nd 5 years is not that big of a deal..if you guys truly love each other then its ok

[jing713]

here's a solution..

get a part time/ regular job of some sort if you haven't already.
doesn't have to be daily, but it has to be regular and often.

maybe you will learn something out of it and become more mature in a way?

[520'`]

You're not too young for him. The age difference is fine. I guess he's just being him

[seeker123]

I kinda half relate, yet on the guys behalf. I feel like cos I'm 5 years older I have to act all mature...

[davey-204]

hes also adjusting to the work world but you should talk to him how you feel and try to compromise with each other. it cant just be about you adjusting for him and no work on his part

[Anime_UK]

No you're not too young for him, the age gap is not big and 20 is not that young. Besides he is only 5 years older then you.