dating -do you find it frustrating-not nowing its going work out Options

[joe45]

do you guys find dating and meeting girls to be very time consuming and effort and at the end you might not even get long term partner or even gf.

so what happens. you have to find another girl and start from scratch. your not even sure if the next girl you ask out or meet will even work out. it might just last for 3 dates or might last more till you find out shes was seeing another guy ontop of you. who nows

i went out with this girl for 3 dates. first time we met was at bus stop and she seems talktive and friendly so i got her email and we met up for coffee and walk in park, after the 3rd time hanging out i notice shes not as writing as much on her emails-very brief and msn shes doesn't reply back or very late. when it comes to the weekend and hanging out -she puts her friends as priority and if nothing is going with her friends then she hangs out with me
what can i do. start again and find another one and start all over again

don't you guys find it frustrating,. having to meet girls and find girls not nowing if its going to last and you might be just wasting your time -for what nothing.

hehe i am new to the dating game, hehe late bloomer. thats just what i'm thinking

[Pinkuu]

You know, this is all a learning process at the same time.
You;'re going to find girls who seem interested and then blow you off after. It's just the way it is. There is no perfect scenario where you can straight away find someone you click onto and become a couple. It will take a couple to find 'the one'.
If you find it tiresome and time wasting, then maybe you shouldn't focus on getting a girlfriend and just let things just happen. Maybe then, the right person might pop along without you having to search so hard.

[SBW]

I always find that looking for a girlfriend is pointless..Mostly because i think when you're looking, you have a set amount of standards and wants which are never going to be fullfilled

I've almost never looked for a "right" girl and when i did, it was because i was rebounding.

[HKobsessed]

i dont think you should go into a relationship expecting to spend the rest of ur life with her.. it takes time to find out what you like .. besides you gain something from every relationship so why not explore ?

[The Yen Man]

Well, what I have learned and realized is that in a relationship, as with everything else in life, the process should be as important as the result. No one knows what's going to happen in the future. I took my first relationship too seriously, and was pretty devastated when it didn't work out, even though I spent so much time and effort on it. But gradually after that first relationship had ended, I came to realization that life is about experience. Enjoy the good things that happen, and learn from the bad ones. But if you don't take the chance and go for it, you will miss out on the experiences, good or bad.

[VainFella]

So when you find the right girl, someone who could be your life time partner, do you think you can keep her? Like what people have said, its a learning process. And really, you will never know if your current girlfriend could stay with you all your life or not. It's a chance you've just got to take.

[brownie7]

i have never dated but if i did i wouldnt date a person i met at a bus stop, also i wouldnt kno how (how did you do that anyway? what did you say? im just curious bcz i dont know how that works out)

if i liked someone it would be at school or work or some sort of place where you see that person a lot and know them. if i liked someone i would make friends with them then date them.

its better to date 'good quality people', ones u know who r good ppl, and are ur friends, so they wouldnt blow u off. and even if it doesnt work out u'd still stay friends

anyway, its not for nothing, you must have experienced good times? like romantic/sweet moments or fun times?

atleast you've dated, sum ppl dont bcz they can never find the rite ppl 2 date or everyone is taken!

[Psi]

Relationships can definitely be a hit and miss. It also depends on how well you guys click and know each other. Yeah it sucks sometimes when u think she is the one and it ends up not working out. Probably cause you have invested so much time and energy.

Well would u rather find out sooner or later that it didnt work out. When u do find the one though i am sure things will be awesome. I am not saying it will be perfect though.

[Love. Music.]

do u expect u just wake up and meet the girl u are gonna marry? well u can do arrange marriages if u really hate the dating process that much.
personally (im a girl) i thinking dating is fun because u get to meet new people and u eventually realize what traits u like and traits u hate.
i mean no im not a player and i date every guy i see but i do give alot of guys chances because i dont know if they could be the man i actually fall for or not.
the fact that u dont know if the person u see is destine to be ur lover makes u wanna give them a chance doesnt it?