I'm a Malaysian girl & i'm over 30 years old, no bf yet at this moment. People who knows me will always asking me when I going to get married. Sometime I feel so annoy about it. Is it all asian people had the thinking that every women over 30 years old must get married & have a children soon. ?.

Actually, I not that type that totally refuse to have a husband. But, it just that I not meet someone that really suitable for me. That's all.

Am I really look weired that way. I mean ALONE & do whatever thing that I like.

It's not really wierd but people will probably have a lot of jokes about you behind your back.

It's not just with asian. It's like that in general with many cultures. In North America, if there is a women in her 30's with many cats, we usually call that person crazy cat lazy or simply assume that she has no prospects on the horizon.

So, people will be people and they will just like to poke at other people's weak spot when they can.

hey there is a lot of strong independent people out there who doesn't need a man. i dont know what is so important about getting married or even having a need to find a boyfriend when you can certainly take care of yourself.

i wont pushi it. yes its annoying but then hey they are traditional. i feel that i dont really need a man, i dont even think i will get married lol...

i dont care about being alone or dieing alone, as long as i know i live my life fully then its all good.

I don't know where you live, however in England (and Poland) at least, it's more and more common to find women with no men... There are many women who pursue their career and are independent...

If anyone says anything mean, just be mean in return =P

If it's a guy, tell him he's a chauvinist, and he should open his eyes to the fact that a woman can get by perfectly well without a man. Our lives don't depend on men in any way.

If it's a woman, then say that unlike her, you're doing something independent with your life, and don't need someone to take care of you.

You're free to do what you want and to act the way you like without having to limit your life in ways that men usually demand, and good for you.

It's a sad double-standard of society... But... when it comes to women, there tend to be many double-standards. We just have to challenge them, and the people who are blinded by these views.

Just do what makes you happy - if you're happier the way you are, then go for it. I know I'd rather be alone than be with a man who I don;t want to be with, just to appease everyone else.

So don't feel bad ^^ You're not weird and people shouldn't see you as such... it's becoming more and more normal...

Come to think of it, many of my teachers were over 30 and single... they were happy in their independence, and could go out with us without worrying about offending a jealous boyfriend or husband =P


You don't need men to survive, and that's a good thing. I don't like the type of girls who can't function without a guy - we got legal equality for a reason ladies! We now have the opportunity to do what men do... and yet so many girls choose to forgo independence, and revert to the lifestyle of women without rights @_@;

It's not weird, but most people presume that you would like have a child, so if you're above 35, the chance of getting a healthy one is only getting smaller. That's why most people would think that people above 30 are already married and going in another stage of life. But okay, if you don't like to, then nothing is stopping you

There's nothing wrong with being over 30 and single! You just haven't found the right person yet, and you shouldn't feel ashamed that you didn't just marry someone, just to please other people. Truth is, for some reason alot of Asian people feel that way, they feel like you should be married and having kids by 30. But I feel that you should get married when you find the right person, and it shouldn't matter how old you are.

Look at who really asks those kinds of question- Usually older people or people already married. I personally think those types of people prob ask those questions cuz they don't really know what to say. Just one of those questions where older people are just trying to find a conversation piece with you For the most part I don't think the people asking really care or think about it much. So don't worry about it

First of all... what do you think of yourself? Do you think you are weird?
It is your choice of life. People don't understand much and just tend to make nonsense and ask that. Not to worry of that. I know how you felt as I was on your shoe too even in my 20s before. Family will says hey you are collecting too many angpow(red packets)... hahaha. I said I need to save up for my marriage one day, isn't that what you want me to. (as a teasing back).

Nowsaday, ladies don't get marry till they are in 30s or not even marry. Don't worry of what others says. Just be yourself and feel what comfortable for yourself.
That day will happen to you. Hey, one of my ex colleague. She got marry when she was 41. That never late.
My eldest sis never got marry. So is she weird? To me, she always have us.

Be strong and never think you are weird.
I do understand Malaysian thinking is very different but they are not you. okay.

well...its not really weird during this modern days now...cuz as we know more and more women are working and they prefer to be single till they are ready to get married as they need freedom for some time~

Well, I don't want to be rude... but marrying late and if you plan to have children later in life does have its disadvantages. Besides the medical risks, it would also mean seeing them grown up later in life. Say, they probably graduate university when you are in your 60's. And will you or your future partner be able to support them later in life (assuming retired and if they need financial help or, for eg buying property, etc)? What are the chances of you seeing a grandchild?

I guess it all has to do with what you want in life and your aspirations.

I know sometimes it is hard to find your knight in Shining Armour or for him to find you! ... but at times you will need to be proactive, be the one to make the initiative.

Then again, I am no expert... I am getting old, a big tummy, plenty of beard (just like my picture there) and still single.

Its not strange to be single at all. Its just peoples judgement around you are based off their own or the concept that a girl should be married and have kids soon. I often hear this statement on TV series alot, Women over 30 are an old tea bag and while men in their 40's are a rose. I was curious about the statement and asked my parents during one of the shows and my parents stated that in old times and their cultures people get married at an young age around 16-18 so it is hard for girls over 22-24 at their time to be wedded as most will want to choose a younger bride. But thats all old school stuff, in this day and age, getting married at 40 or 50 is normal. Take your time and find the one you truly want to be with.

My aunt is over 30, hasn't got a bf and she hasn't got married yet... I don't think it really matters because I would rather wait for 20 years to find my soul mate.. than to rush into marriage because of what some1 else thinks... I don't think the time has come yet.. maybe u need to socialise more.. meet more people.. may help to find someone u really connect with...

Good luck with it!.. I'm sure u'll find him soon!

Being 30 and single, is not weird.
You still have 40~60yrs to choose yourself a partner,
so just live your life.

whoa, ppl r still a bit old-fashioned today. i don't plan to marry until i'm at least 30 and wen i find the right guy, i mean these days marriage doesn't seem like the most important thing in the world

No it's not.
It's so annoying that people would presume you to get your ass out and marry just because you hit a certain age. It's your choice to marry.
Remember you are not alone. There are many women who are independent and wants to get marry too but according to their own timeframe. So don't let the pressure of marriage get to you.
As for women't biological clock. Well, that's something you do need to consider (again, it's your choice). I agree with one of the poster mentioned above because I am thinking of the same things.

1. biological clock
2. when you reach the age of 30+ then there's a huge gap between you and your children.
3. late retirement, except if you're mojo rich.
4. grandchildren
5. growing old alone (unless someone would be with you)

My sis is in her 30's and it was just days ago that she decided to marry. So hey, it's what you want out in life. Remember, there is no perfect marriage because there is no perfect people.

I also get the same question everytime I see some of my old friends. I just smile and let them know that I would love to get married but have not found the right one. That would stop them. You don't have to be annoyed.

enjoy yourself; i don't think its weird at all, especially w/more ppl working and living longer.
i have an older cousin who is in her early 40s, looks super young, and is currently dating a younger boyfriend
actually, we had a family celebration and she and another one of my cousins (in her 30s) said that they were carded, and the guy was like, "woah, you're old" and "woah, you're even older", lol.

Nope, I don't think it's weird. It's none of people business if you're married or not. Just because you're passed a certain age doesn't mean you have to get married. I'm 23 and people's been trying to arrange/nag me about marriage, but I'm not interest at the time because there are other things in my life to worry about then about these things. There are those who will poke fun and rub stuff in your face, but hey to what you want because it's your life. If your not ready, then your not and remember you're not alone .

didn't you hear? 30 is the new 20's.. lol

nah, i don't think it's weird at all. nowaday there are more important things woman than marriage and stuff like that. i know a lot of woman who's appoarching their 30 and still single and they are loving life, travelling, dating different men and just having a good time. they aren't ready for marriage and some don't even believe in them. they tease me for being old because i'm 21 and i have a boyfriend and we have a house together.

Hehehehe....same situation here. I would definately get married if only i found someone suitable. But as there is no fate or no target yet, i guess i hafta wait for a moment because i don wanna choose the wrong candidate. Imagine if u chosed the wrong one and guess who is beside u every morning when u wake up....muahaha

Anyway, we can be friend. Just in case i am goin for movie, would u like to join?

definitely not weird especially in this day and age.. I personally thing that the 20s are the most important decade of self-learning and gaining experiences that may alter your future.. and I think presently, this 20s range has broadened to the 30s-- I know of plenty of people that are in their early 30s and still enjoying the single life

I don't think it is weird at all. There are still many women who are over thirty and still single. I even have a cousin who is over 30 and still single. But usually people expect you to be married when you reach 30 or around there.

hehehe...sometimes people said OLD IS GOLD...then most people said OLD IS CHA POU (Old teapot)...muahaha

oohh. i feel so sad for people who are still single at that age. i think they need to go find a partner as soon as possible. coz life ain't easy without one.

My sentiments exactly!

I'm in my early 20's and I've never had a real boyfriend before (although I've been on a few unsuccessful blind dates), and I'm enjoying my life now.
To be honest, I've never really thought deep about the topic of marriage. I'm one of those people who really doesn't see the necessity of getting married, it's not the only aspect in your life. There's your career and social life...but why must every person have a love life too? I think it really just depends on each person's personal view and choices.
Marriage doesn't work for everyone, and not everyone live their lives with a partner, and for those people, there's other aspects of their lives which they can focus on and enjoy and make the most out of them.

I'm still neutral about the whole topic of marriage...I don't really care about it to be honest...as long as I make the most out of my own life, and what I've got, I would be more content with. I don't want to set marriage as a future goal, but I also don't want to dismiss it completely either...I guess I'll just go with the flow and make the most of what I have now and live my life one day at a time.
And if I don't ever get married in the future, then so be it...I would still be satisfied knowing that I tried to live my life to the full.

Hey, you know. People can think whatever they want. Maybe it's only because you don't feel or ready to get marry and have a family of your own. Or whatnot. I've come to cases like that too and I tend to just ignored it. IDC. You can live up to how you old you want before getting marry and settle down.

No that means you are smart and not just picking any old guy. Enjoy your single life.