i don't like my sis' boyfriend mainly he's a very controlling of my sis. although he's like more than 10 years older than my sis and me ....he's a very cheap, never invited me and my bro for a lunch or dinner. never did give us any gifts. , never bought us anything not even when he comes over to my house for dinner, most of time,he's empty handed. even when he bought something, he only bought like 2 pieces of damn BBQ chicken, which was his favourite food and only enough for himself... .....
& when my sis asked him for an engagement ring, he told my sis that she doesn't need one since she's not gonna to wear it anyway.... the most annoying part is that my sis is ok with that(although she's LITTLE bit mad at first).
When my sis ask her boyfriend about his expectaion for their financial plan when they get married, he told my sis that whatever my sister makes for her income, she CAN NOT give more than half of her income to support our parent(because my bro still in school, i think this guy is so afraid that my sis will give all of her income to support us...idoit ....my sis told that guy it's her decision to decide how much money she should give out to support her own parent......anyway, not even me(as the sister) dare to tell my own sis as to how much money should she give to my parents, this guy sure know how to control his gf.

I guess it really depend on the person to expect gift. For me, I don't care if my sister's
boyfriend give me gifts or not. But I can assure your sister's boyfriend is a bit off the hook.
I don't think I can take it either if I were you. He sound so greedy in money. Let everything
flow by and see what happen next if I were you. Digging in is just going to make things
worser.

your sister needs to stand up for herself.

anyhow, its not your relationship, you cant do anything about it.



your sister needs to stand up for herself.

anyhow, its not your relationship, you cant do anything about it.

Well, I don't know if in Asian tradition that guys supposed to be giving gifts all the time, but if that guys never getting you gifts, I don't see the big deal about it. He's not dating YOU, he's dating your sister. In any case, the way he talks like he's the authority on everything sounds more then a little controlling. I think your sister should stand up to him and not let him tell her what to do. If he can't take that, then they shouldn't be together.

if your sis like him so much u can't do anything ... love is blind my friend ...

the unhappy truth is that all u can do is help your sis since this is her life and her boyfriend you should not get involved...if she's happy with him, then that's her choice whether to stay with him or not...

Oh no.This is a disaster waiting to happen.Only your parents can do something about it,as in tell her about thinking twice before she makes a life commitment with this guy.What you can do it go out with her more often,occupy more of her time so that she can see that she can enjoy life apart from just being with him.

As for me I will give her a few advice if she still insist then just ignore her because if you keep giving her advice she might say that you are annoying.

if your sis loves him there's not much you can do. maybe she has low self-esteem?

for the sake of your sister, just be nice to him. but don't expect much back in return.

bout the financial plan. ur sis shud keep all her money and do wotever and the guy shud keep his money and do wotever with it. i dont get y couples put their money together its so complicated. u shud just buy ur own things and pay halves on the house, bills, and food

If she doesn't mind, why are you so bothered. You know once they are married, you have nothing to say at all, she chose him and if she suffers in the future, she chose the road herself. As long her boyfriend doesn't rob her money and runaway.

physical confrontations are sometimes okay in certain situations... i am not suggesting or encouraging this but a man's gotta do what a man needs to do to protect his family.. =D

You might wanna consider saving up for that day.....

wow what-a-heck??..............

Wow, you're right. He's completely evil. I mean, seriously! How dare he not bow down and treat you like the spoil royal brat you are. How dare he actually be financially responsible and not spend money he may not have!



What a controlling sunnava b*tch! How dare he actually take charge of a relationship and have opinions of his own! I mean, we all know that a wedding ring is what makes a marriage works!



Surprise, surprise! How dare a husband (because that's scenario she gave him) make a financial decision that may be for the better of her NEW AND IMMEDIATE family? How dare she put her other relatives financial needs before that of her own family! How dare HE suggest they keep their own savings to themselves?!

God, he is pure evil, isn't he?

But don't worry, I've got the perfect solution sweet cheeks!

Take two cc's of "MIND YOUR OWN GOD DAMN BUSINESS!" in the morning, follow by a teaspoon of "GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF WHERE IT DOESN'T BELONG" in the evening and don't call me in the morning.

There are always two sides to a story hun - find out that before you judge!

I have the same problem and let me say that U can not do anything!!!. Your sister is blind by her love. When she will awake it will be too late. Unfortunately we are powerless in front of love !

well to start, i don't believe that you should get involved in their business unless it gets dangerous. BUT IF, it came to the point where you had to write this up, i guess he could be coming close to crossing the line. just be cautious and look out for your sister.