My mother is 48, she has a cancer that is incurable. The doctor said at best they see her only having 2 -3 years.

I can't get over the fact that I'll never see her again. Although she still living but everytime I am alone I can't help crying.

I can't understand why my mom has to die and go through so much.

She brought us up, she suffer through so much hardship and yet the hardship never ends.

She must be scared and I can't help her. I can't help her.

I don't know how to deal and help her deal with her pain and suffering.

Help~

Sorry to read about your mom.

Life is fragile. Tens of millions of people die every year and your mom's just part of the statistic. Instead of dwelling on the fact that she will go, think of all the happy memories you share with her.

You need to be strong so that your mom won't have to worry about you. It won't help her seeing you and your family crying and depressed. Yes, you'd still want to show her support and that you care about her. You can do that by spending more time with your mom. Talk to her more. Go on trips/vacations. Help her fulfill any last wishes she may have.

you should be grateful she still has 2~3 years to live. at least you know when she's going to die and you can prepare yourself for it and spend more quality times with her.
imagine if she never had any diseases, then suddenly she died without warning because of accidents etc... i think you would be more depressed. you would feel remorseful for not being able to repay her for raising you up. try to think positively...
i know everyone would be scared when they face death (i dont have any say in this, because i havent experienced death of someone dear to me) i know i would feel extremely sad too if my mother is going to die... but she's going to die one day, i had 2 go through it sooner or later.. maybe i might even die before her. no one knows bout these things except gods. you dont have to be old to die...

Make full use of these 3 years but dont spend these 3 years worrying too much. You never know what might happen in the future. Who knows you gonna live till tomorrow. You might die before her (car accident?). Just make good use of these days when she is still here. She might even live far beyond three years.

oh man so sorry to hear this. hmm 2-3 years? im no doctor but maybe they'll find a cure by then? or at least a way to slow down the cancer? but 2-3 years time is alot of time for you to prepare yourself for the end and what will happen afterwards. you also have to make the best of these 2-3 years with her, man. like you said, she did her job to bring you up, to rasie you, faced the hardships, she did her job. when we all finish our tasks, we'll meet again.

Her health is deterroriating fast. Her cancer is spreading.

The doctors now say she has anywhere between days and weeks.

How to prepare death when its coming like a speeding bullet.

There is just so much different things running inside of me... Anger, guilt, sad, denial, ....

I can certainly appreciate what you're going through.
My Grandma died of Cancer. She was the nicest lady in the whole world (well, to me, anyway) who gave everything for her family and friends and asked for nothing in return, and I remember how hard it was for my Mom to see such a sweet women being forced to suffer through so much pain.

You may think you need to do something extravagant, but really, all you need to do is let your Mom know how much you love her, and just be there for her. Most importantly, give her lots of hugs. They say when you hug someone, you share some of your energy with them. My Grandma was supposed to die quickly according to the doctor because her Cancer was that bad, but she miraculously lived several months past her expected death date. The doctor couldn't say why, but if there's any truth to that theory, then all the love we were giving our grandma is possibly what kept her going as long as she did. You're Moms a lot younger then she was, so she'd definitely got that going for her. As long as you can keep your mother motivated and staying positive, miracles can happen. Or at the very least, you can make the transition from life and death as painless for her as possible, considering the circumstances.

Also, she may feel like a burden if she knows she's making everyone so sad, so just in case that's true in her situation, make sure to let her know that she has nothing to feel bad about, all she should be focusing on is staying motivated. It's okay to cry, but you also need to be strong for her to show her that you'll be okay.

Also, just remember, nobodies perfect, as long as you're making a conscious effort to be there for her, then you're giving her the best gift you can.



Aw, I'm really sorry to hear that. Don't worry about being any one way though, as this really isn't something you can easily prepare for. Just go with what you feel and work through everything one day at a time. There's no easy fix, you just have to keep your chin up and keep working through it. At this point I guess the best thing you could do for yourself is expect the worst but hope for the best. That way, you've got all your bases covered, and hopefully you'll be able to deal with whatever happens. Best of luck to you and your family, and here's hoping your mother manages to pull through. I've seen it happen before, so it certainly wouldn't surprise me.

I am sorry to hear that you have to go through such hardship. Cancer is a very deteriorating disease for anyone to go through. I think the best thing you can do for her is to spend more time with her and support her in whatever last wishes she has. You still have 2-3 years, so that's a while. As the phrase goes, "Live today as if there is no tomorrow. Live life with no regrets." (or something along those lines ) Make that true for her. Make her happy. Stay positive. I'm sure she wouldn't want to see her children depressed.