Seeing that majority of this forum community is asian and most likely in high school and in college, you feelin on the pressure/competition from your parents, your peers, your friends, etc to get into the "best" school and graduate to get that piece of paper?? Yes asian parents all put on SO MUCH pressure to their kids. Its a good thing, but sometimes shady because they want you to finish and be successful, but some asian parents also use this to boast/showoff to their friends "oh my son/daughter graduated from this school with a 4.0, 4.2, honors, BLAH BLAH BLAH" I know other cultures have this too, but its usually the asian community thats so competitive.

Are you judged for not receiving that piece of piece of paper (diploma degree if you havent gotten it yet)? Its terrible how cruel the world is nowadays where they dont understand we all go through life at different paces. Everyone has their different circumstances and obsticles that could possibly delay this kind of accomplishment, i.e. the need to work and go to school part-time, family issues, financial issues, living conditions, and now we're running into classes being cut or not offered when you need it!


Anyone got judged or denied by your bf/gf's parents because you havent gotten that degree certificate yet?


It just sucks what we have to go through nowadays (im not going to bother comparing it to the past few years).

Well like you said people go through life at different paces, it just takes a bit of maturity for people to see that grades are not the be all and end all.

My views on academics have changed SOOOOO much over the years. I used to be very concious of achieving well, getting good grades etc (don't get me wrong, i still aim for those top grades), and although wrong, i did judge those less academic than myself.

I no longer judge others if they don't achieve well academically. Indeed there are circumstances where academics are vital (applying for a job, a course etc), but other than for those reasons, it doesn't really matter.

Grades doesn't make the person, you can be very academic and yet be a total ass, though thats equally likely with someone who is unacademic.

At the end of the day, it comes down to the individual.

Okay, so I'm a junior and I think my parents are being tooooooo oversensitive about me wanting to do law. Like seriously they threatened to disown me if I didn't become a doctor. Is this the pressure you're talking about? Because I'm a really good student and I'm not bad at science I just don't like it. Ugh..... I totally understand about the whole boasting thing it gets on my nerves...

For the judging part since I'm not allowed to date (even thought I have) they are biased towards everyone. It's like if you don't have a degree or if your degree is in something they think is stupid then my dad talks about it all the time!!!

Haha, the reason parents want their sons or daughters to do well is because they don't want their kids to have hard life. They want their kids to have it easier than them, and having a good amount of cash makes life a lot easier (unless you gamble it away or something). Being a doctor brings a lot of money (but is stressful) and this means you'll be able to support yourself and your family. The gloating is just a bonus ;p. I mean come on, which parent wants their child to do well for the sole reason that they can gloat and compare?

I can't speak for everybody, but out of all the graduates I know, very few are actually working in the field they studied in university. So the degree you graduate with doesn't always dictate the level of success you will have, or what job you end up with. (ideally it would, but meh).

Yes, there are people out there who will judge you based on the level of education you've had. During the course of college and university you will meet students who judge each other based on how well they do at school. It's how they choose to view things. I tend to judge people based on presence and character. How well somebody can write an essay/do a math equation/solve an engineering dilemma doesn't concern me, but that's just my view. A potential employer will look for how well someone can do the job - a good personality is just a bonus.

Aaand I've gone off at a tangent again. To answer that last question of yours, I haven't personally experienced rejection due to not having a degree because I'm planning on doing postgraduate study anyway, but I do know someone with a dad who disapproved of her boyfriend because he finished high school and went to work instead of going to university. He recently went back to study because of that.

I agree with Cheshire. Most parents want what they believe is best for their children and in society today, that means getting a college degree and a stable job to support their future family. This will put them more at ease. Of course, there is some who love to exaggerate and boast of their children's success, but that's their pride for having raised such a smart child. Certainly, it puts a lot of pressure on the child in the process, but in the end, the child is the only one who will benefit.

But, right now, I think it's a matter of getting a job that parents have to boast about. For relatives whose children didn't graduate from college, no questions asked, because we all know and we dont' want to hurt their pride. However, since we have college graduates in my home, we always get asked where are we working? What position? Is it a good field? and sometimes even how much do u get paid? I feel the latter is what is really comes down to. Money.

I was not allowed to date while I was schooling either, but it is also because my mindset was all on school. Dating, relationships with other ppl doesn't really count in my world. It is kind of lonely to say that but yes, that's what I have gone through. Now that school is done and over with, I can focus on other things in life as I like it!