Please forgive me for this post, I also put in at xwl thread. Just felt I had to share this and please forgive me for causing any possible upheavals afterwards...because I am a VicnB fan...

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Per postings at vic's thread regarding his relationship with xwl:
post 879 may 28 2005
Feelings went down with xwl?
....zz felt that it was hard to understand xwl while xwl feels that zz wa watching her while in love....
post 945 july 6 2005
....first was the news released by the crew of "E Nan Zhai Ji dian" on xwl complaining to other actresses being too attached. they always have to be together besides when they have work, making xwl feel that she has no freedom...
....in april the crew of "E Nan Zhai Ji dian" went to Liu Fu Cun to shoot scenes and zz likes to mutal accompainment. it seems like their relationship is going steady and maturing but according to the crew, even though zz is still visiting like before, the atmosphere is already different. it seems like they are at the state of 'saving the lost love"
post 960 july 13 2005
change of heart, zz doesn't love xwl anymore.....(third party da S or valen hsu?)
but during this year's may, zz friends said he had changed his heart, they rarely mention each other and seldom contact each other though phoning
post 997 july 19 2005
quarreled constantly, zz and xwl have broken up for over a month
Trying to promote everyday
he(zz) is being bad mouthed horribly behind his back
one moment they say that there is no relationship between her and zz
the next moment they say that xwl is the victim, implying that zz has found another girl
discerning eyes can see what theyare doing
for the past year, if it wasn't because of zz's fame, miss x wouldn't have so many dramas to film, making commercials and even coming out with a book
There are alot more postings regarding their relationship. You can read and get alot of information.
She is very pretty and seems very charming.
However, from all my readings....any negative/accusing information came out in flavor of her and against zz. The only remarks zz have given about her is "we are good friends"...he has never badmouthed her....
We may not know everything, but one's actions can speak louder than one's words....the fruit of what a person is doing/intentions (seen/unseen) can be revealed by the fruit of what that person is producing for themselves and causing/producing for those around them.
Discord, confusion, disharmony, distrust, and negative rumors....or
Peace, clarity, harmony, trust, benevolence and friendship toward others.
My honest opinion is that responsibility in a relationship belongs to both parties.
It would seem that the older(xwl is 3 years older), college graduate, and one who had been in a steady relationship with another person for 2 years, would be more mature and responsible.
Again, there is information out there if you just read and study it, and then you can evaluate/compare a person's word to their actions and behavior.
God bless everyone, praying for truth that gives peace and calm to everyone!