This guy likes me, and i would date him, but he's *ugly*
Posted 23 March 2006 - 06:11 AM
Posted 23 March 2006 - 06:30 AM
anyway, im still letting the idea of someone being ugly and not dating him sink in. well, from personal experiences (and although corny), i have always felt that even though a guy doesn't look all that great, after i know them better, their appearance just gradually "gets better."
i understand where you're coming from though. but in fact, just because he looks bad, his daughter might turn out quite ok. ive known some people like that. oh yeah, since you're asian, the "law" of son looking like mother, daughter looking like father might just apply. so you have your son on a good direction already. and you might just have sons and not daughters, so thats another positive side of it.
and i really think that you should go for this guy. i have always been taught that "handsome guys are not 'yours' they belong to other people." and its a good thought to think about. besides, just because you want to settle down, doesn't mean that he does. you two may not even make it that far. marriage is not something one should be rushing into. its great that you're thinking far, but if you let this guy go, you might never find one that could compare (looks and inners). and you'll be kicking yourself later on. anyway, in the end, inner beauty is what matters most because when the outer withers, that is all you have left.
Posted 23 March 2006 - 10:30 AM
Genes are so random - i've seen alot of ugly parents with really good looking kids and visa versa.
just go with ur heart
Posted 23 March 2006 - 10:53 AM
you should give it a try....if can't then you can awlays find another guy
Posted 23 March 2006 - 11:21 AM
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Posted 24 March 2006 - 01:38 AM
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Posted 24 March 2006 - 02:55 AM
I am not sure what you mean by ugly but if dont mind dating him, there must be some sort of attractions towards him.
Personally i think no one is ugly, its just a matter of preference.
If you like that person than go for it and disregard what the public says.
Edited by disobey, 24 March 2006 - 02:58 AM.
Posted 24 March 2006 - 03:58 AM
Posted 24 March 2006 - 04:33 AM
However, like what most people said above... Looks don't last forever. Is this guy a decent person? Will he be a good husband/father ? HIs background is solid enough... I'll say.. give him and yourself a chance. Maybe one day you will be able to see through his face and look into his heart. I wish you the best of luck
Posted 24 March 2006 - 05:12 AM
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Posted 25 March 2006 - 10:28 AM
and its got nothing to do with his personalty. Real love looks past physical appearance. No you shouldnt consider him because you'll just end up breaking his heart.
Edited by jackkool, 25 March 2006 - 10:29 AM.
Posted 25 March 2006 - 03:01 PM
Posted 25 March 2006 - 04:55 PM
Posted 25 March 2006 - 06:50 PM
If you still disatisfied, dumb that guy and find another one which qualified for your requests. nothing hard about that.
Posted 25 March 2006 - 06:55 PM
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Posted 26 March 2006 - 10:10 AM
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Posted 26 March 2006 - 09:51 PM
Why get married just for the sake of marriage??Or just becoz ur parent/urself want to get marry early?
If u think de guy is ur cup of tea.It is advisable u date this guy & see how he fare.Atleast u can know how is he really like(personality)
And if u think he is ugly,i think the hope is kinda less,beauty is in de eye of the beholder,not to mention u say him ugly**(Just imagine if u marry this guy and have to spend the rest of ur life with this guy.Not to mention having sex & born kids)
hey girl,open up ur contacts!!get to know more ppl.He isn't the only tree in de forest.Y make urself miserable by choosing a tree tat u don't like??So what if the tree like u.
Posted 26 March 2006 - 11:48 PM
Posted 27 March 2006 - 12:00 AM
Posted 27 March 2006 - 04:04 AM
I would marry someone because he/she is the person I want to spend time with, and they feel the same about me. You're thinking way too far ahead of yourself here.
Posted 27 March 2006 - 04:19 AM
Posted 27 March 2006 - 04:26 AM
Edited by VanHK, 27 March 2006 - 04:27 AM.
Posted 27 March 2006 - 09:53 PM
Posted 27 March 2006 - 09:59 PM
Nothing wrong with finding the right person who fits all the criteria.
Posted 28 March 2006 - 02:35 PM
Posted 28 March 2006 - 03:22 PM
Posted 28 March 2006 - 10:36 PM
Basically would you rather have a wonderful relationship with someone that is not so attractive or would you rather be with someone who is extremely attractive, but then you have to worry about him and be insecure because there will be a lot of girls chasing after him. You will find the person attractive the more you like them and love them. In the end, it should really be based on you and him and not everyone else.
Posted 28 March 2006 - 11:50 PM
But I guess it all depends on how seriously the person looks.
I don't know, good luck to you.
Posted 29 March 2006 - 01:28 AM
i think i'm above average looking. I'm not very pretty, but i look decent.
you have a pic of yourdelf to show us..and let us dicide =] lols
Posted 29 March 2006 - 02:42 AM
As for the whole "won't marry ugly guys/girls who are ugly because their kids will have a greater chance of being ugly/uglier than if they marry a better looking guy/girl", that's just a whole lot of BS. I've seen a lot of good looking people out there with not so good looking parents. It's all in the genes. Did you ever study natural selection in biology?
I think you need to get past his looks and divulge deeper into his personality and traits. That's the most important part of a person, not their looks.
I totally agree with what you saying, it's pretty shallow to take look so seriously and you are loking for husband material not Mr. Hong Kong. As long as you can look at him without wanting to throw up then it's fine. Okie looking is what last. If the guy is too good looking I'm sure he's bond to have affairs. And the whole marry ugly guy/girl and bore ugly kids are wrong, it got noting to do with that it's all in the DNA gene and it's a conbine of both. I have friends whose parents aren't good looking but my friends are all good looking.
Posted 29 March 2006 - 02:47 AM
ARGH, thats not true just because a person looks like mr hong kong dont nessesarily mean he will cheat, aside from that i dont think its shallow, shallow is not even considering dating him, shallow would be like f**k off with out giving a thought. This girl IS ATLEAST giving a thought... and yea DNA has its weird turns dont expect to look like parents LOL remember 40% nature, 60% Nurture, Psychology for the win!
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