Why do guys make promises they can't keep
Posted 03 May 2007 - 03:26 PM
Wat's the point in promising in the fisrt place.
When u guy make promises, u make us girls really believe in everything u say and then us girls get hurt in the end becos u guys broke ur promises.
R most guys like this? any1 wanna share any stories.......
for example my ex-bf promise he will introduce me to his family, I know his parents are strict so i tried to be understanding and waited 1.5-2 years- in the end, he never did. it really hurts.
This is a stupid question to ask but how do u know when a guy is being serious?
Posted 03 May 2007 - 03:39 PM
If we make a promise we stick to it. but sometime we say it so u girls could stop nagging us.
Its not like we want to do it but that the only way it seem to shut u girls up sometime. i dont think its cute to keep nagging us and make us give us our words on thing. in reality u guys force it out of us. how could u take that serious. ??????
Posted 03 May 2007 - 04:06 PM
Just imagine if the girl does that to u, promise u anything n everything and yet she doesnt do it..
Posted 03 May 2007 - 04:33 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 04:48 PM
But if the guy says I promise blah blah blah, In my experiece, no, not most guys are like this.
People tend to keep their promises when they say they promise
Posted 03 May 2007 - 05:06 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 06:51 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 07:13 PM
Listen, you expect too much from a man, that's your first fault. Everyone is human, everyone makes mistakes. They can easily forget or have other things on their minds. They can't always have you on their minds. That'll be the *impossible*. They'd be like your slave if that was the case.
The more you trust ppl the more you will get hurt. I trust my fiance completely even if he lets me down, I easily forgive, because it's a justible reason as to why he let me down. Then again, I don't care if he lets me down, I let him down some times too. You're expecting too much from a person to be perfect to their words. That is really all there is to it. But if it was absolutely important, I'd have to call him and check up on him every now and then to make sure he does keep to his word, or ask if I should do it instead.
Posted 03 May 2007 - 07:18 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 07:45 PM
In this instance, I would agree that it is important what he promised you because it is a representation of what your future holds.
Posted 03 May 2007 - 09:15 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 09:30 PM
Posted 03 May 2007 - 10:33 PM
We say a lot of things to make our bf/gf happy, and we try to make them happy by doing many things. When things go sour, we stop. Or when we're tired, we stop. You can't change another person or mold them into something they're not. People are unhappy and feel promises are broken when certain things do not meet their expectation.
To prevent that, communicate and have expectation out in the open. Not hiddden expectation that so so will always do this, etc. When something doesn't meet your expectation, let the other person know. Don't bottle it up and get all upset
Edited by miranda, 03 May 2007 - 10:33 PM.
Posted 04 May 2007 - 04:36 AM
Posted 04 May 2007 - 04:58 AM
guys usually break promises... but not all...
though ive been hurt with those promises too... sometimes they didnt intend to do that.... maybe.... hehehehe
and yeah, it depends with the promise..... hehehehe
my boyfriend id good in keeping promises... haha im actually the one who break promises for him.... so i guess, it also depend on the person...? ^^
Posted 04 May 2007 - 05:07 AM
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Posted 04 May 2007 - 01:45 PM
I agree with u, orangejuice.
be4 i was too young and innocent so i believe everything they say but now i've learnt to be stronger and not take everything too seriously. like u all say, u cannot guarantee anything espically when it comes to "love" - becose people feelings can change and when it does nothing can stop it.
When i say i won't take things too seriously, I mean- I won't fall in love too deeply becos now i know that guys sweet talks means nothing, it's their action that counts.
Do I sound abit cruel?
I've only dated 1 guy and it was a bad experience so it has turned me into the way i am today.
People look at me and say.......... i'm quiet pretty and smart (I'm a pharmacist) and have a good family but y am i still single. Then they just assume, i'm too picky with my choose but that's not true, i just have a hard time trusting guys these days....
Posted 04 May 2007 - 02:14 PM
i give u example, ur partner promise to take u to wonderland and have a wonderful time together. and then just 2 days before that you guys had a fight and BANG BOOM, u broke up.. so u still expect ur partner to take u to wonderland???
there could be reasons like.. their busy
but no, not every guy can't keep promises it depends on the person
i mean if u date a guy that is very very loyal etc.. he probaly will remember every promise he made while u forgot them?
Posted 04 May 2007 - 08:49 PM
its just life. learn to trust but not indulge in promises.
Posted 04 May 2007 - 09:17 PM
But then again Cutie, I have a question for you. Do you always keep promises you make to your boyfriend?
ah ha... makes you think ddon't it.
Posted 05 May 2007 - 01:37 AM
Mayham_skeet------ i've only being in 1 relationship and it was my first relationship too,, so i really did put everything in it.... so yes i could say that i did kept all my promises to him. That's y i say now i'mnot gonna fall to deep in a relationship anymore cos i don't want to get hurt again.
Posted 05 May 2007 - 01:41 AM
Posted 06 May 2007 - 03:37 AM
girls always eat their bullsh*t promises
and choose to be their caged up bird
and cherish every f**king word.
Posted 06 May 2007 - 04:36 AM
Posted 06 May 2007 - 04:58 AM
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Posted 06 May 2007 - 05:52 AM
I reckon its just a excuse for some people to get pee'd off coz they got nothing better to do haha...
At some point someone mite say something like i promise or something that means it and doesn't keep it...are people saints...well probably 0.00000000001% of the world are. People lie, people cheat, people break promises - get used to it.
I don't believe when girls say they promise things haha...only some people take it at face value and think the word promise is this godly word lol...In the future ur most likely gonna be a mother/father and thats when ur promises become BS too.
Yes i didn't get my extra large death ray gun that my dad promised me...
You gotta be pretty naive to believe someone just because they spouted out i promise lol...
Posted 06 May 2007 - 12:59 PM
But i can understand that its annoying
Hard to see if someone is serious or not perhaps he is serious but he forgot it or later he got his own reasons that he dont want to do keep that promises
just talk with him about that !
Posted 06 May 2007 - 01:13 PM
--------- He told me to give him time like a year so i did and after 1.5 to 2 years, he still didn't so that's y i was so hurt in the end I hate being in an insecure relationship, especially when he knew my family and my freinds so when we broked off he had it the easy way out while every1 kept on asking me wat happened.
el_rey [You gotta be pretty naive to believe someone just because they spouted out i promise lol...]
-------YES I was extremely naive becos it was my 1st relationship, but now I've learnt alot out of it.
kabang - ---sorry but i didn't mean to generalise all guys, was just asking for ur opinion and if any1 wanted to share their experiences.
just talk with him about that !
Thanks Jonnkie----- we broked up already n there's no chance we will get back together again but at least i've learnt a good lesson out of this relationship. Also i think he was serious with me and he did love me at the start but after awhile his love for me faded..to a stage where he said to me, "we can still be together but he can't guarantee that he could love me again", so we broked off cos i don't want to be with some1 who doesn't feel the same way as i do. i still don't know y but i guest the reason y he couldn't keep his promisse was becos he didn't love me anymore. that's y it hurts so much and all the things he had said to me and all the promises just meant nothing anymore.
this is a really good phrase--------- it doesn't hurt until it touches u .... so now i learn not too be to naive and believe everything people say anymore
Posted 06 May 2007 - 10:45 PM
It's normal. Can't really blame them either. You just have to be more cautious yourself and not let yourself get too upset over the disappointments of broken promises. (:
Posted 09 May 2007 - 03:02 AM
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Posted 14 May 2007 - 06:26 AM
Posted 14 May 2007 - 08:11 AM
Promises CAN be broken, it is not always when a person will be able to keep a promise. There are several different things that can affect it
Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:53 AM
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