i love him, he loves me, but he cant be with me... =(
Posted 13 September 2008 - 05:17 AM
so me and this guy we were dating for a good 6 months, but inbetween we went on and off a few times. we were each others' first, and whenever were together, everythings good. but right now, he tells me that he doesnt feel like being in a relationship, and that he just wants to stay single for a bit. he tells me he loves me, and i believe him cuz i can feel it. just like in the past when he broke up with me and when i talked to him, i could feel that he does. he'd care for me and call me up all the time. and later on he came back to me and we were together again. and when i asked him if we can still be together, he says not now. and he said maybe in the future, he cant promise anything. its been about 2 weeks since were not together now, and we havent talked much ever since. we talk a bit at night sometimes, but not for long cuz he's got school, work and is tired >_<. when we talk about normal things, things seem fine, but the thought of us not being together just makes me sad inside. im scared that another girls is going to take him away from me cuz a few times, he told me that there are these girls who are flirting with him and stuff (this girl he just met told him to carry her books for her to class and keeps flirting with him..), and of coruse hes not a mean guy right, so he does that back. he says he doesnt like her, but he told me that he's scared taht even though he doesnt like her, there are those thigns that girls do that just makes the guys like them even if they didnt before. and i get scared... cuz i dont want to lose him, even though if were not together. and its funny, but cute. he told me that he loves me, but he doesnt want to be in a relationship right, and he said that he doesnt want to lose me.
and he also said that he wants to be with me but there are things that make him dont want to... (like my dad and other ppl who keep trying to seperate us) and the last time i talked to him, the other night when he was about to hang up, he told me he loves me and when he said that it made me cry =( cuz i still love him, and he still does too, but hes not mine =( i just wish we were back together.. people tell me to move on, but its hard cuz all my friends dont know how our relationship was. they say negative things about him but they dont even know every little thing that happened. if they were me they would understand. but me and him went through so much together, i'd always help him out, and when he did wanted something i'd always try my best to get it for him. he knew this, and i know that he'll always remember it. and when i think back, for his birthday, i spent alot on him, and i know he really liked them, and he told me that for my birthday he would owe it all back to me. he got me a necklace with a heart on it with my initials on it, and my birthstone. it was so expensive, and he still got it for me <3 i remember him telling me that it didnt matter how much it was, cuz he loved me and thats all that mattered. it made me so happy, and still now when i wear it, i think of taht. so much has happened and when im sitting here thinking, he's the one who i just cant stop thinking of.. i love him, he loves me, but why...? has this ever happened to you guys? will we ever get back together....? =(
Posted 13 September 2008 - 06:50 AM
Why does he think he gets to keep a hold on you like that? That's what he's doing, he's holding you back... Something in his life may be keeping him from being with you right now, but he's not telling you what it is, and he's not letting you go. He's not letting you get over him. Doesn't that sound selfish and unfair to you?
If you guys can't be together right now, no matter how much you love each other, you shouldn't be holding each other back... You should be free to experience other relationships. If it's meant to be, then eventually you'll find your way back together. But for the time being you should be living your own life...
Posted 14 September 2008 - 09:32 AM
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Posted 16 September 2008 - 10:35 PM
I just left out your opinions (like "it was cute" etc.) to see what he actually does said to you.
Posted 18 September 2008 - 06:18 PM
but heres the thing... before in the past... he did tell me taht he moved on from me, and that we both should not see each other again. and he also told me taht he doenst miss me... but a few weeks... he did miss me... and came back. just like this time.. he also told me he doenst miss me... but will he miss me after a month? and he said to me that i wasnt the one for him, but he still came back to me, and when he said he sorta liked another girl, he didnt. will he still come back...? or is it for real this time? i dont know, and im really hurt... i just want him back, i cant forget him just like that... and i still remember he told me a while ago that no matter what happens if ew break up that he'll still always love me. but i dont really get... do u guys know? and when i asked him if we would ever date again, he said maybe.
sorry i talk so much >_< but i just really need to talk right now =(
Posted 20 September 2008 - 09:00 PM
Wathcing too much movies lately?
It seems like the "I love you, but can't be with you" line will get any girl for you.
Posted 22 September 2008 - 09:39 AM
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Posted 22 September 2008 - 03:58 PM
I think you should tell this guy of yours, that you guys need a break, no seeing each other, no phone calls, just no contact, period. And he can call you when he stops being immature and is willing for commitment. No girl deserves to be dragged around by someone who is nothing to them. As for you, you should keep a separate journal diary of this guy. you would write in it everyday that you think of him. and if you don't think of him that day, you don't have to write in it. This will work, trust me :-P a guy with experience here. all wounds take time to heal :-)
Posted 23 September 2008 - 04:23 PM
I'm trying to move on now, until he comes back I will go out, and if i find a guy i would date him etc Maybe I can forget him by the time or maybe i will fall for him again if he comes back a few months later. No one can tell, but my suggestion to you is trying to move on and not think about it more, it will prove if his love for you is real or not.
Posted 26 September 2008 - 04:59 AM
@ DQ427 -> i like ur idea~ and i cant help but think of him every night =(
*sighz* should i even at least try talking to him?
when i tried to call him he wouldnt pick up =(
why is he ignoring me...?
he said to me that he will talk to me when he's ready...
but somehow, it feels like he's only saying that so i'll stop talking to him..
is he really trying to move on from me..?
does he really like that girl who's so mean...?
what exactly is he thinking/feeling?
Posted 26 September 2008 - 03:57 PM
In my point of view he was trying to hint you that he can't be with you no matter what, but if one day he can't find no other girl to be with then he can always come back to you.
In another word he is using you as a spear tire.
Remember, to find someone you like is very easy but to find someone who likes you as much as you loved him is very difficult. My point is just go look for some else that worthed you time.
Posted 27 September 2008 - 02:27 AM
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