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How can you tell if a guy genuine likes you or if he just wants to get into your pants?


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#1 sillylili88

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 05:22 AM

i feel nowdays everyone is pretty sexually active so it is kinda hard to tell when a guy is truely into you or just want ot have sex with u ..
any signs to look out for? thanks..

#2 KungFuPanda

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 05:51 AM

The guy does a lot of touching and feeling on unusual places. He puts his Hands in your pants back pocket, looking down your shirt, hugging hard( some guys hug really hard to feel the girl's chest), touching legs, arm around your back but its closer to the butt than the shoulders, and hard kissing too much. Though these might be all wrong but my guy friends told me their stories.

#3 jyang81

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 06:19 AM

Well,
If the guy doesn't rush into a physical relationship, I think that's a great sign that he's into you and not just for the sex. Also, his actions over time. If he tries to get to know you better, tries to be thoughtful, and likes to do interesting things with you, these are also really good signs, too.
Funny thing is, once there is a solid attraction between a couple, biology takes over and it does lead to sex. But I do think people rush into a physical relationship too quickly these days.

#4 jinchuan

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Posted 27 March 2009 - 08:45 PM

but that still does not justify, rushing into sex or get too quickly doesnt mean anything.

but u can only test a guy out after a night, i personally think it ll get to know each other better

#5 neon_lee_2002

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Posted 29 March 2009 - 01:25 AM

If I guy is really into a girl, they would want to know more about the girl. If the girl has problems, he would be willing to help.

If a guy is just wanting sex he would be getting close to the girl and maybe some touching.

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Posted 29 March 2009 - 04:23 AM

all guys want to do is get inyour pants.honestly their is noo nice guys..i think their nonexistent..

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 03:36 AM

all guys want to do is get inyour pants.honestly their is noo nice guys..i think their nonexistent..


Im a guy and quite frankly i agree. Either way we want to get in your pants. We can really like you and still want to get in your pants.

If you don't want that you have to tell the guy off if he starts doing wrong things, or things you think are inappropriate. Tell him you don't want to. Just tell him NO. If he genuinely likes you he'll stop. If he only wanted to get in your pants and your persistent about the NO, he'll stop wasting his time and give up.

This is the ONLY way to find out. To talk to him. If he genuinely likes you he will compromise for you.

#8 JSBach

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 10:38 AM

all guys want to do is get inyour pants.honestly their is noo nice guys..i think their nonexistent..


You're the first person to have any sense on this thread.

ALL guys have sexual urges. If he doesn't have sexual urges towards a girl, it's because he thinks she's butt ugly.

If you disagree, you're either a girl and don't know much about guys, or you're one of those spineless nice guys who pretend to be "nice" but have a massive porn stash you secretly jerk off to.

Edited by JSBach, 30 March 2009 - 10:41 AM.


#9 erict1628

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 08:43 PM

You're the first person to have any sense on this thread.

ALL guys have sexual urges. If he doesn't have sexual urges towards a girl, it's because he thinks she's butt ugly.

If you disagree, you're either a girl and don't know much about guys, or you're one of those spineless nice guys who pretend to be "nice" but have a massive porn stash you secretly jerk off to.

That's exactly right. If a guy wants to befriend a girl, he's doing it with only one purpose in mind: Get into the girl's pants.

And if the girl is fugly, then she must have a really hot friend whom the guy wants to have sex with, and he's using the fugly girl as a bridge.

#10 JSBach

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Posted 30 March 2009 - 09:05 PM

That's exactly right. If a guy wants to befriend a girl, he's doing it with only one purpose in mind: Get into the girl's pants.

And if the girl is fugly, then she must have a really hot friend whom the guy wants to have sex with, and he's using the fugly girl as a bridge.


I'm not saying that guys ONLY want sex. But it's clearly one of several important objectives. Only the most naive would think a guy doesn't sexually fantacize about a girl he's interested.

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Posted 31 March 2009 - 01:55 AM

Every sane guy has sexual needs. It's not hard to meet them but don't put out or give in quickly.

Edited by misa., 31 March 2009 - 01:56 AM.


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Posted 31 March 2009 - 01:58 AM

when a guy genuinely likes u he wont try to feel you up. if u dont wanna hug then hes ok with that he wont get all annoyed. when u guys hang out he doesnt wanna make out or anything he is settle with just sitting next to u.

everything is sexual related when a guy wants to get to ur pants. he would ask u to come to his house alone at night.
he would always tell u how hot ur body is.

on the other hand if its a real crush the guy would flirt but only when u respond not force it or suggest anything on u

#13 AsianShadow

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Posted 31 March 2009 - 06:47 AM

Honestly, we all want to get into your pants.
However, in my opinion, there are a few ways to tell if a guy just wants to get into your pants or if he genuinely likes you and wants to get into your pants. . .

If he insists on making out with you or feeling you up or wanting to have sex with you either during or after only your first couple of dates, (and ever subsequent date thereafter) he's probably just in it for the sex.
If he usually takes every opportunity to make out with you or feel you up when you're out in public or over at his house (especially if he invites you over to his house a lot) he's just in it for the sex.
If he usually asks you something about yourself, replies with something simple like "that's cool" and then generally just turns the conversation back to him and talks about himself most of the conversation, chances are he's just in it for the sex.
If he showers you with gifts and dinner invites and fancy jewelery and chocolate and clothes, he's probably just in it for the sex.
If you find the only time he talks to you is during any of the activities listed above, and otherwise he's always "too busy" to talk to you, or generally refuses to hear about any of your problems, he's probably just in it for the sex as well.

All those points aside, though, one of the best ways I would think to judge his intentions is to take it slow. If you're going out with a guy, date him for a few weeks or even a couple of months and don't have sex with him, (or better yet, declare abstinence) and see what happens. If you go out for a week or two (or 3 or 4 or more) and he gets annoyed with you or starts talking down to you like telling you you're a terrible girlfriend and insulting you because you refuse to have sex with him, that's a big sign that's all he's in it for. If a man just wants to have sex with you, why would he want to waste time hanging out with you when he could be out having sex with a girl who will just give it up for him on the spot?

If a guy genuinely likes/loves you, he's not going to be in such a hurry to have sex (Though that doesn't mean he's not thinking of it) because he knows it will happen sooner or later. He won't mind taking the time to really get to know you and spend time with you first, because for one thing, he's just interested in getting to know you, and for another, he'll understand that you just need time before you're really comfortable enough to let your relationship go any further. He'll always try to kiss you of course, because if he didn't at least go that far, he probably wouldn't be interested in you at all, but he probably wouldn't be in such a rush to touch you or make out with you, or even if he did try it, he'd respect your wished if you told him to slow down. Furthermore, he'll be there for you when you need him ( Or so I would hope) instead of just when he needs/wants something from you. Also, when you're having a conversation with him, if a guy honestly likes you, he'll probably be more inclined to hear about you. What you like, what you don't like, what are your aspirations in life, etc, and he'll actually make more of an effort to keep the conversation on you.

Now, don't get me wrong though, none of this is 100% accurate, as the most knowledgeable "players" are aware of what it really takes to attract a women, and they know just what to say and do to come off as charming and not raise any red flags, so they could still just be interested only in having sex with you but you wouldn't know it because of how genuinely attentive/casual they seem to be about everything. Also, most women will probably find the more attractive they are (the more beautiful their faces, the bigger their boobs or their booty, the more in shape they are, the skimpier the clothes they wear, etc) the more time and money a man will invest to get into her pants.

For instance, if a girl just looks average, a guy might ask her out a couple of times and buy her a little something, but if he can't have sex with her, he'll just leave her for someone else. However, if a girl looks like the hottest thing on the planet (to that particular guy) he might be willing to date her for weeks and spend all kinds of money on her, and go that extra mile to really get to know her (some even go as far as marriage) just so they can have sex with their own little playboy bunny. So, you have to watch out for that too.

Edited by AsianShadow, 31 March 2009 - 06:58 AM.


#14 Microcosm

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Posted 31 March 2009 - 07:13 AM

There's no way to know for certain, so why bother trying to figure it out?

Like everyone has pretty much said, all guys have sexual urges. Even your nicest guy friend may could be masturbating to you; you can never know. You as a girl will have to learn to deal with it.

Most of the time, if you're questioning the guy you're dating, your instincts are probably going to be right or he's at least being more pressuring then normal. Only at that point you should begin consider dropping the relationship if you're into something serious. If you never feel pressured to be thinking about it, then trying to figure out the guy's motives is pointless, you'll never get a real confirmation.

Edited by Microcosm, 31 March 2009 - 07:14 AM.


#15 Veivei

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Posted 06 April 2009 - 07:11 AM

If he genuine likes you , he still genuinely wanna get into your pants.
If he isnt genuinely likes you, he still will show this genuineness and still get into your pants.

Either he is genuine or not genuine, he still aim for the pants. LOL!

#16 cloudxvii

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Posted 07 April 2009 - 04:12 AM

Wow um. No?

Sorry to be the outlier here, but I know I have much more respect for the girl I currently like at the moment.
Perhaps I am just weird, but I would much rather just be with her than 'aiming for the pants'. That's quite disgusting and quite sad that nobody believes that any guy has an ounce of respect and decency. Maybe it's just me and my high school experience.
I can tell you that many of my friends also have the respect factor. Just because some guy is a douchebag doesn't mean they're all like that.

I will admit that there are girls that I have urges for, but it's simply that and I wouldn't end up 'liking' her or befriending her and all that stuff. It's stupid.

#17 larpy

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Posted 07 April 2009 - 04:23 AM

personally if i had a gf i wouldnt want to get into her pants until im married
i definately would be tempted
but my will power is strong and u dont have to get into a girls pants to have a strong relationship

#18 erict1628

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Posted 07 April 2009 - 07:10 PM

I'm not saying that guys ONLY want sex. But it's clearly one of several important objectives. Only the most naive would think a guy doesn't sexually fantacize about a girl he's interested.

Sure. It's not our ONLY objective, but it's our ultimate objective. :whistle

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Posted 12 April 2009 - 04:05 PM

its a tempting thought for all guys, some will get in your pants, some will not.

i respect girls, and would not try to get into a gf or any friends pants until later in a relationship/marriage or whenever. whatever happens naturally happens agree? i believe everyone and everything has their time

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Posted 13 April 2009 - 04:49 AM

If a guy says he doesn't think about having sex with a girl he's with...

1. He thinks the girl is butt ugly
2. He's on some hypocritical bullsh-t Nice Guy routine who secretly has a 20 GB harddrive full of porn
3. He thinks the girl is butt ugly
4. Closet gay
5. He thinks the girl is butt ugly
6. Repressed Jesus freak
7. He thinks the girl is butt ugly

NO EXCEPTIONS

FACT - If guys don't have tendency to fantacize sexually about girls he likes, there wouldn't be 7 billion people on earth today so fast (and growing exponentially).

Edited by JSBach, 13 April 2009 - 04:55 AM.


#21 Hot*Treasure*in*the*Snow

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Posted 06 February 2013 - 05:38 PM

Give him some anger, if he keeps you, he likes you, if he let you go he just wants to get into your pants.

#22 SassyViet

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Posted 07 February 2013 - 12:06 AM

Well he would start by putting his right leg in, then his left leg...

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Posted 07 February 2013 - 12:24 AM

Girls, you need to be thankful that a guy want to get into your pants. It means you're still attractive.

On the other side of the coin, hey girls, you want to have someone get into your pants too.

#24 shar0n

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Posted 07 February 2013 - 01:47 AM

i guess all the guys wants to get into your pants except those religious types wont

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Posted 07 February 2013 - 05:46 PM

If he genuinely likes you he would wait until you are ready. If hes just in it for the sex, then he would try pressuring you into it!Posted Image

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Posted 23 February 2013 - 01:49 AM

Simple...not comfortable with him and his moves..likey not for keeps..snag u for sex alone.
But if he's interested in you..likely talks about your interest and what you're all about without
"remarks" then...he's a keeper.
BUT...if you have an instant attraction for the guy??
Tempting isn't it...well still up to yah!