[Shun Takashi]

How would you raise your children.
well i know most of the posters here are teens, but there are a few wiser ones (older, lol) . so how do you plan to raise your children, if its a girl or a boy.
put some details if you can.
how would you raise them or teach them to be what you want them to be?

will edit this for an example soon.

so i would like mine to be understanding and disciplined.

so far what i wanted is that,
i wont allow to watch too many TV, like i'll block the local channels, lol. only allow, some programs, discovery, nat geo, lol. disney channel, cause not all cartoon are good either. lol.
i wont allow a lot of toys. lol. (toys that can be educational is ok)
we wont speak the local language. (e.g. if we live in US, we dont speak english, lol, cause apparently the kid will still learn it, so we use other language, if applicable)

even when s/he playing with friends like in a game, id like for him/her to understand why i allow him/her to play, i mean its not about getting what s/he want or enjoying the situation and just have fun with out understanding. all kids want to win even when their playing, but i want my kid to know and observe their playmates, if s/he see they tried hard enough to win, i hope my kid would let them win. with this s/he is already charitable and selfless.

i'd like my kid to read books than to watch TV. have alway a time to communicate and talk to one another everyday, so his/her vocabulary and the way s/he talks will grow, not a bunch of slangs.

i dont want him/her to be infantasize by people when s/he 3 years old. like people seeing children and wanted to play with them like "bugabauga" and making faces like that.

i'd like my kid to compete but not competitive, for him/her to try and explore, to learn.
as much as i can i'd like to give the best education (private or public).

it may sound im strict even for a child with these, but i'll make sure we have fun doing these (especially when were talking)

This post has been edited by jun takashi: 17 November 2009 - 02:00 PM

[Gabriel Knight]

If I have children or adopt some child, regardless of girl or boy, the most important is that I have to teach them to have a kind heart.

[Anime_UK]

I would give my kids a good education (private or public schooled is pefered) because education is important! I want to raise them to be charitable, selfless, decent, kind, open and polite! lol. But discipline is important to make sure they dont become lazy, rude and go down a bad route!

Its important that they are happy and sociable. I would give them a good middle class upbrining. I want to provide them a great childhood and be involved in their lives

I would encourage them to be active, to learn things for themselves and just support them

I have high expectations for my kids when they are all grown up! lol.

[soda224]

Anime UK gave a good answer Lol

I would try to do the same as that. And just let my kids know that they are loved no matter what and that loving friends and family are the most important things in the world, not like money and material things.

[hello melody/kitty]

jun takashi, on Nov 16 2009 9 21 AM, said:

How would you raise your children.
well i know most of the posters here are teens, but there are a few wiser ones (older, lol) . so how do you plan to raise your children, if its a girl or a boy.
put some details if you can.
how would you raise them or teach them to be what you want them to be?

will edit this for an example soon.

so i would like mine to be understanding and disciplined.

so far what i wanted is that,
i wont allow to watch too many TV, like i'll block the local channels, lol. only allow, some programs, discovery, nat geo, lol. disney channel, cause not all cartoon are good either. lol.
i wont allow a lot of toys. lol. (toys that can be educational is ok)
we wont speak the local language. (e.g. if we live in US, we dont speak english, lol, cause apparently the kid will still learn it, so we use other language, if applicable)

even when s/he playing with friends like in a game, id like for him/her to understand why i allow him/her to play, i mean its not about getting what s/he want or enjoying the situation and just have fun with out understanding. all kids want to win even when their playing, but i want my kid to know and observe their playmates, if s/he see they tried hard enough to win, i hope my kid would let them win. with this s/he is already charitable and selfless.

i'd like my kid to read books than to watch TV. have alway a time to communicate and talk to one another everyday, so his/her vocabulary and the way s/he talks will grow, not a bunch of slangs.

i dont want him/her to be infantasize by people when s/he 3 years old. like people seeing children and wanted to play with them like "bugabauga" and making faces like that.

i'd like my kid to compete but not competitive, for him/her to try and explore, to learn.
as much as i can i'd like to give the best education (private or public).

it may sound im strict even for a child with these, but i'll make sure we have fun doing these (especially when were talking)

I would teach them not to be bad, be compatible with everyone, not to be selfish and putting themselves before anybody else, to share and to love one another. It doesn't matter at what age, to respect their family as well as the peers, be polite and kind.

Teaching kids are a hard task and it can take a lot of endurance, listen to them rather than them listening to you, learn from each other. Of course there is the time to let them be free and watch tv or draw/play, a time to do homework and to revise and read. You can't expect them to have a book and a pen on them constantly, a time to relax and to chilli out is as important as education. Being too harsh and putting them to a limit can reflect the opposite.

[AsianShadow]

Oh wow, I'm liking everyones answers so far

When I have children, regardless of the gender, I would try my best to raise them to be very open minded to the world around them and accept and admire people for their differences rather then judging people negatively for merely having a different lifestyle/ethnicity/opinion/way of thinking then they do, and also to never be afraid to just be themselves, regardless what anyone else thinks. I'd also like them to understand that when it comes to a lot of things in life, it doesn't really matter whether you win or lose, the real point is just to give everything in life your best shot. I'd also like to raise them to look out for their friends and family, to understand the value of friendship and sharing, and the importance of giving a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on. Also, to always respect themselves as well as to show respect to those around them, (to the people that deserve it, anyway) and to know the difference between helping someone out, and flat out being taken advantage of, and to understand the importance of being honest.

I'd also like to raise them to not be afraid to show their feelings, so if they're angry or sad or whatever, then it's fine if they want to let it out of their system rather then bottling it up inside and to be able to express themselves in words when they're frustrated rather then with fists.
I'd like to teach them(especially if any of them are girls) not to look at girls and boys like either one is better then the other, and to understand that girls can do anything boys can do. I've still seen a lot of gender stereotyping going on these days and there is no way I want that cycle to continue within my family. As well, I think it's very important that my kids understand that if they ever have a question about something, no matter how strange or embarrassing it might seem, that they can always talk to me, especially when it comes to sex. Knowledge is power, and I want my kids to be as well informed as possible in life and encourage them to keep learning new things. It's also very important to me that

As far as toys and stuff goes, I certainly don't want to spoil my kids, whether they deserve it or not. I'd like them to understand the value of a dollar, and how much things cost, and to make sure to appreciate the things they have, rather then dwell on the things they don't. Both my sister and I learned that very early on, and it really helped my parents out because we understood if they couldn't afford everything. I think exercise and a good diet is really important too, so I'd like to make sure my kids have a healthy interest in something more then just videogames and tv, and to understand why it's important to eat healthy and not have junk food all the time. That being said, I'd be perfectly happy with them playing videogames most of the day if that's what they liked to do, as long as they at least got a little exercise in, and I'd be fine with them eating the occasional chocolate or bag of chips or whatever.

I'm not the kind of person who would give my children an allowance, as that always seemed a little strange to me considering they weren't doing anything to really earn it. I don't believe in paying them simply for good behavior or anything, as I think that just sends the whole wrong message. Being a good person or doing good at sports/school etc, should be its own reward, you don't need money on top of it. I'm also not the kind of guy who would expect my kids to do any chores. We're only kids for a very short time in our lives, and I personally believe a childs school work cuts into that enough without needing to stack any extra chores or anything on top of it. I also think it's important to be there to help your kids along when they're going through school, so I'd happily take time out of my day to help them with their homework (as in helping explain things to them if they don't understand, showing them different methods of doing things, keeping them motivated, etc) To a certain degree, having an education is very important, so I believe as the parent it's my responsibility to ensure that my children understand the value in what they're learning and can take some enjoyment out of it rather then being turned off by it, and the easiest way to do that is to make sure they really understand the material.

Most importantly, I definitely want my kids to have a lot of self confidence, so I would try my hardest to always give them a lot of love, support and encouragement throughout their lives.

Basically, I'd like to raise my kids to be unique individuals who are (hopefully) kind, loving, respectful, confident, accepting, open, honest and hard working.

This post has been edited by AsianShadow: 18 November 2009 - 12:00 PM

[Gabriel Knight]

^Wow! You should write a book about these helpful hints for all parents in this world. Don't forget to give me one with your signature as to pay for my good cue to you, OK ?

However, the section of teaching them to play videogames will be deducted in my application of your ways, LOL ! Instead, I'll encourage them to take up some kind of sports, for instance, tennis or football to strengthen their health and body. And if they acctually have a passion with sports, I'll suggest them to pursue it and become professional athletes, which can earn them a good living then.

[clarvoiyance]

^^ I totally agree with what you said. But WOW! That's a lot of tips on how to ideally raise your child.

I would like to add that, since children are born as a blank slate, we have to be there at all times during their life experiences. This means spending "fun" time with them when they are chilling/playing games or when they read. This is to protect them from bad influences from other sources while growing up. As mentioned before, there are a lot of bad influences now on TV, but I would not limit them to it. Kids will always be kids. However, what we can do is watch the more educational TV shows with them. I mean, we can learn with them along the way about the world, if we don't know it already. Take Sesame Street for example. I grew up watching that show and it is ever changing and intriguing. They have stars on their show all the time because they not only want children to watch the show, but they also want to encourage their parents to watch and enforce their learning with them since the parents are sure to recognize the guest stars. I like that idea for an interactive learning program.

Alternatively, we can also introduce something like reading time, to encourage and enhance their reading skills. Who knows? Maybe they will end up liking reading. I am not too sure about the language; I'd speak the language I'm most comfortable with. I grew up learning two languages at once and although language is probably one of my strengths, I had a terrible time growing up like this (as in I had problems communicating at times), so I do not want my child to have this issue.

Also, we, the parents, have to change our habits, so that our children can pick up the good habits; we serve as the role models for our children. Then again, kids always pick up bad habits from their parents anyways. I know I definitely took up some bad habits from my dad. So of course, I only mean TRY to be the best that you can at least un front of your children. can be naughty behind closed doors I guess.

[Anime_UK]

soda224, on Nov 16 2009 10 10 PM, said:

Anime UK gave a good answer Lol

I would try to do the same as that. And just let my kids know that they are loved no matter what and that loving friends and family are the most important things in the world, not like money and material things.

Thanks btw

Also yes I agree that love and happiness is more important then money and material posessions