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#1 redding

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 02:42 AM

lately, this girl that i like has been feeling down for alot of reasons. she got rejected for this exchange program, shes not getting along with her dad and apparently got into this huge fight with one of her best friends. shes acting really cold to everyone lately, but who can blame her?

now you all may think that i want to cheer her up so that she'll love me, and even though thats part of the reason, lol, i also do care about her and for some reasons seeing her unhappy is making me unhappy haha dont even know why. so ladies, lets say you're in this girls shoes, what can a guy do to cheer you up. ok, forget "guy", how about a friend. what can a friend do to cheer you up?

like always, thx in advance

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 03:52 AM

View Postredding, on 04 February 2010 - 02:42 AM, said:

now you all may think that i want to cheer her up so that she'll love me, and even though thats part of the reason,
Don't try to cheer a girl up thinking that she'll be attracted to you for it.

It's the fastest way to put yourself into the friend zone. If you want any chance with this girl, stay away from her until she figures out her problems.

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Posted 04 February 2010 - 04:09 AM

no, you know what? forget about me liking her. i want to help her more than i want to be her lover. just that seeing her like that is so depressing. im sure its not only me, but alot of the people around her wants to help and support. and ill be a horrible person if i dont.

dont help her so that i avoid being in the friendzone? thats like more shallow than helping her just to be with her. im not that kind of person. well actually, i am, but i cant do that to this girl :P

so if youre going to reply to this, can you at least contribute and tell me what i can do to help her? rather than what i can do to score with her? thanks.

Edited by redding, 04 February 2010 - 04:10 AM.


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Posted 04 February 2010 - 09:26 AM

Well everyone's different and there are so many ways you can help cheer someone up. It also depends solely on the things that got them down.

You also have to accept the fact that sometimes there is no such thing as cheering someone up. It's like saying their problems are so unimportant that it can stop bothering them when a guy does this to her. No it doesn't work that way. She needs time to get over something that makes her unhappy.

What you can do, is just be available to show your support and just listen to her if she wants to talk. Don't try buying her a big soft toy something like that you see in movies. That just kind of insults her and saying your problems will be fixed with this big teddy... So yeah, stop thinking of "methods" to cheer her up. Just be there for her when she needs it.

For example, the best thing to say to a friend who is unhappy is
"hey, if you need anything call me."

"hey, i'm there for you whenever you need, just call"

Edited by seeker123, 04 February 2010 - 09:28 AM.


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Posted 04 February 2010 - 01:42 PM

Take her out of town, see a movie or something, take her out of her element and environment. Anywhere nice to get her mind off the fact that she got rejected from the exchange program. OK she got rejected from something big, but if I was in here shoes, that would be an effective way of making me forget it and move on.

If it's still bothering her after something like that, then her anger is part of a long-standing bigger picture, and that just takes more exploration.

Edited by samsunglover, 04 February 2010 - 01:43 PM.


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Posted 10 February 2010 - 05:21 AM

I agree with seeker123, sometimes you just can't cheer someone up, no matter how hard you try. She'll do it in her own time. In the mean time just watch out for her a bit more and give her a friendly hug :). Just reassure her that you'll be there for her.

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Posted 14 February 2010 - 09:50 AM

Aww. :( I'm sorry about that.
Little things always help, once she's feeling okay, like tickling and joking around. But to make her feel better about her problems, is just letting her know that you're there for her to talk to whenever. I know I would love it if a guy was always willing to hear my problems or make me feel better. Sometimes just letting it all out and knowing that someone's listening helps. It's comforting and makes you worry less. ^^
I hope things turn out well~

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Posted 16 February 2010 - 02:45 AM

I would sing a good ballad song quietly so not to disturb her too much. When you feel so shitty, loud music is not a bad idea, and you want to be alone, but when another person sings I think it's better to be quiet.

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Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:32 AM

I have the same problem about learning how to cheer a girl up... I ended up just spending lots of money.. what are some things to do when that person might be in rage... she expects me to do something right away but I wouldn't know what to say or do

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Posted 16 February 2010 - 02:54 PM

well, i'm no expert in this
but i guess you can message her at times.
tell her that whatever her problems are, they're bound to be solved one day.
say that you'll always be there for her.
when you see her, smile at her.
don't talk about her problems to her.
she most probably wants to forget about them when she's outside.
not much of good advice but i tried =)

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Posted 16 February 2010 - 09:26 PM

Try doing nothing.

Mind your own business, its not your problem.

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Posted 04 March 2013 - 07:47 AM

Joking
Buying chocolate
Making a cake or some food
Boiling coffee or cacao and make a table ready
Flowers
Horse riding
Poem, letter
Goofy performance
Concert
Saying sweet things
Compliments
Gifts
Your time
Extra gentleness, tenderness
Being nice and kind and be together happily
Listening

Edited by SnowQueenOfDarkness, 04 March 2013 - 07:47 AM.


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Posted 04 March 2013 - 08:20 AM

View PostSnowQueenOfDarkness, on 04 March 2013 - 07:47 AM, said:

Joking
Buying chocolate
Making a cake or some food
Boiling coffee or cacao and make a table ready
Flowers
Horse riding
Poem, letter
Goofy performance
Concert
Saying sweet things
Compliments
Gifts
Your time
Extra gentleness, tenderness
Being nice and kind and be together happily
Listening

Aw...how sweet of u

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Posted 04 March 2013 - 08:24 AM

View Postshar0n, on 04 March 2013 - 08:20 AM, said:

Aw...how sweet of u

I am too sweet and too kind Posted Image Illegal innocent and blue eyed , charming, nice and rude easy to use Posted Image

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Posted 04 March 2013 - 08:26 AM

View PostSnowQueenOfDarkness, on 04 March 2013 - 08:24 AM, said:

I am too sweet and too kind Posted Image Illegal innocent and blue eyed , charming, nice and rude easy to use Posted Image

who used you?

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Posted 04 March 2013 - 10:05 AM

View Postshar0n, on 04 March 2013 - 08:26 AM, said:

who used you?

A person.

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Posted 05 March 2013 - 08:19 AM

View PostSnowQueenOfDarkness, on 04 March 2013 - 10:05 AM, said:

A person.
what did that person use u for?





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